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I think GP means being polite to something because otherwise it refuses to function is submissive, not that politeness is inherently. I might prefer my manager to ask me to do something politely, but it's still my job if he asks me rudely.
But the AI doesn't refuse to work unless you're polite. If my manager is polite with me, I'll have more morale and work a little harder. I'll also be more inclined to look out for my manager's interests- "You've asked me to do X, but really what you want is Y" vs. "Fine, you told me to do X, I'll do X". I don't think my manager is submitting to me when they're polite and get better results; I'm still the one who does…
I wonder if there is a way to get ChatGPT to act in the way you're hinting at, though ("You've asked me to do X, but really what you want is Y"). This would be potentially risky, but high-value.
[0]: https://nitter.net/ESYudkowsky/status/1718654143110512741