If when I started learning about calculus at 14/15 someone had explained why we were doing this it would have made it so much less confusing. Explaining in terms of speed/distance/acceleration seems to make complete sense now (one of several potential examples). However discussing a function and talking about splitting in into small (infinitesimal) strips of delta quantities and a list of equations / proofs made it c…
This is where kids with an engineer parent have an advantage. Such a parent can offer examples of how some of the math is used in the real world. Once relevance is established it's OK to point out that this stuff is often buried in software but someone had to put that math into code form so we can all benefit from it. "You may never use it, but you use tools that use it under the hood" can be motivating when they're wondering if it's all just weird busy work.