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New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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I got excited when I saw something about helicopters. There are hardly ever any articles about helicopters on HN. I have a commercial helicopter license and almost 900 hours of combined helicopter and airplane flight time. If any extra rich people in the bay area or Sacramento want to buy a heli I will be your personal pilot available 24/7. Helis can go almost anywhere. I love to fly but it is hard to fly them unless…

But are you available for parents? It’s usually flying low, around parks etc.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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I got excited when I saw something about helicopters. There are hardly ever any articles about helicopters on HN. I have a commercial helicopter license and almost 900 hours of combined helicopter and airplane flight time. If any extra rich people in the bay area or Sacramento want to buy a heli I will be your personal pilot available 24/7. Helis can go almost anywhere. I love to fly but it is hard to fly them unless…

> almost 900 hours of combined helicopter and airplane flight time If I were in the market for a helicopter pilot, I would be very keen to know what the breakdown is!

Is there a specific breakdown above which you’d not consider someone claiming combined heli+aircraft experience a heli pilot?

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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I am a victim of this and was depressed until, I took control of my life.

The worst part is, all of your life decision are taken by the parents and you feel at odds at your own emotions when you grow up to become an adult. Now a days, any words that my parent utter, even if the advice is a good one, I never take them seriously.

Lost trust on both the parents.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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The great irony of helicopter parenting is it doesn't accomplish all that much. After you cover the First World basics (adequate nutrition, no violence in the home etc) you just don't have that much control over who your kids will eventually grow up to be, no matter how much test prep or whatever you throw at them.

See also: https://www.npr.org/2011/04/22/135612560/selfish-reasons-for...

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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Maybe the earth/environment collapsing around them while nobody does anything to fix it is also depressing.

Nobody? All the solar stats are up and the right, IEA expects fossil fuel consumption will soon plateau, solar panel prices keep going down faster than experts predict, seas are getting flooded with windmill parks etc etc.

I don't see why you're getting downvoted. There is an ocean of difference between "we're on track to fix things" and "nobody's doing anything at all", yes, but it does nobody any good to pretend we haven't even gotten on the boat yet. They'll just reach the assumption that it's 100% hopeless.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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I am a victim of this and was depressed until, I took control of my life. The worst part is, all of your life decision are taken by the parents and you feel at odds at your own emotions when you grow up to become an adult. Now a days, any words that my parent utter, even if the advice is a good one, I never take them seriously. Lost trust on both the parents.

This makes sense. Kids need agency and make their own mistakes. And parents to guide them not too far off course on the road to adulthood and a well functioning being in society.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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I got excited when I saw something about helicopters. There are hardly ever any articles about helicopters on HN. I have a commercial helicopter license and almost 900 hours of combined helicopter and airplane flight time. If any extra rich people in the bay area or Sacramento want to buy a heli I will be your personal pilot available 24/7. Helis can go almost anywhere. I love to fly but it is hard to fly them unless…

I upvoted the whole submission just so more people can read this comment.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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post #22

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> almost 900 hours of combined helicopter and airplane flight time If I were in the market for a helicopter pilot, I would be very keen to know what the breakdown is!

Is there a specific breakdown above which you’d not consider someone claiming combined heli+aircraft experience a heli pilot?

If I were to say combined 5 years of professional experience in rust + C++, employers would definitely want to see the breakdown, unless they really don't care if it's 0+5.

(And in the case of my claim, it is indeed 0+5)

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I love to fly but it is hard to fly them unless you have a lot of money. I have a comfortable amount of money, and I have been certified to fly some small airplanes, including one turbojet model, yet helicopters still elude me - it's just so much harder. Much respect to you sir.

I have an uncomfortable amount of money, so uncomfortable it makes flying in a helicopter a pipe dream. Guess I'll have to drive my kid to football practice in a plain ol' car. I know, car's are very 1999.

If it's any consolation, it would be very uncomfortable to land a plane in a football or soccer field.

Re: New Study Says Maybe Helicopter Parenting Is Making Kids Depressed

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Just my personal experience working as a psychologist with kids: The kids who were overly protected had about the same amount of problems as the kids from seriously neglected homes. So when I want to make my case for NOT overprotecting kids, I say: "If you really want to damage your kid: Protect them from all adversity."

I do think that the whole "suicide is increasing" trope is seldom put in context. Of course, it's a serious issue. But the number is relatively stubbornly just hanging around 5-15 per 100k for all nations for hundreds of years. So when people say stuff like "suicide among teenagers is skyrocketing," I roll my eyes, because I know they think THEY know the cause of the supposed epidemic of suicide. The absolute risk of suicide has been almost strangely stable across culture and time (as a population rate).

By contrast, it is so good to see that death by drowning and car accidents have plummeted over the last 50 years.

Here is a link to some interesting graphs on cause-of-death: https://www.nejm.org/doi/10.1056/NEJMsr1804754

On a side now, I love the nerd tangent in this thread about actual helicopters :P

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