Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
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Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
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#2As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child.
And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the time spent with the kids is invaluable but at the same time thinking in our future and risks makes me be more materialistic.
I wonder how people deal with this.
EDIT: I consider we are in a privileged situation as I think we can afford to live with just one of the incomes.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#3As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
Always optimize for the long term. They should all be able to go to college, get healthcare, food and clothes and housing, but once that’s settled invest in your relationship with them. Set them up for long term success. It looks a little different for everyone but I’m sure with your context the solution will be clear.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#4As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
Congrats! It's a wild ride.
2 months was some of the hardest times ime.
Fyi we did long parental leaves followed by home nannies followed by nanny share where we went to other house half of the time to eventually day care, then changed day cares.
It depends on the kid (outgoing, brave, high energy, can start daycare younger) but I like waiting 1 year for day care.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#5As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
Don't delay daycare for too long. The best teachers for your young kids are often other kids. I have friends who left / kept their kids too long at home either caring for them themselves or with a nanny, and the kids were developmentally behind. No I don't believe it was permanently, but it is amazing to see how fast your kids learn to crawl, walk, talk as soon as they see how other kids do it. Everyone finds their own path, situations differ, kids differ. Just something to consider. Oh and have fun with the kids sicknesses once they are in daycare, it takes an entire year for their immune systems to adapt :D Still worth it to go earlier rather than later. (My kids went to day care at 4 months which many will say is too early, each to their own, and my wife resigned her job to stay at home, still went to daycare)
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#6As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
We were lucky to have some flexibility to spread the load. My wife and I both dropped down to 4 days a week, and my Mother-in-law looks after our son one day a week, so he has a Dad day, a Mum day, a Nana day, and 2 daycare days.
To us it feels like the optimal setup, he gets some valuable one-on-one days with all the important people in his life, gets socialised at daycare, and no one gets too exhausted looking after him all the time. I absolutely love Dad days, I don’t think I could ever give them up now.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#7As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
We were lucky to have some flexibility to spread the load. My wife and I both dropped down to 4 days a week, and my Mother-in-law looks after our son one day a week, so he has a Dad day, a Mum day, a Nana day, and 2 daycare days. To us it feels like the optimal setup, he gets some valuable one-on-one days with all the important people in his life, gets socialised at daycare, and no one gets too exhausted looking afte…
It's pretty similar to our current situation, how old is your child?
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#8As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
Please add a location. Here in Germany,
- my wife had 6 weeks maternity leave (fully paid) before birth and 1 year parental leave (65% paid)
- I have 2 months parental leave (65% paid)
In Spain for example, it appears to be 4 months (fully paid) for each parent. You can't take 8 months as mother, only the father can claim his share.
Not working in an office and still getting paid makes this decision rather easy.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#9As a father of a two month old (and acknowledging the article goes in a different direction of my fears) this somehow reflects some of the questions that appear to me on decision taking that affects my child. And one of my main doubts is how to deal with the tradeoff finance/time spent with the baby. Should one of us quit from work? Maybe part time? Nanny at home vs daycare? Part of myself says it is obvious that the…
Expenses have a way of ballooning to fill your income, so my wife and I decided to drop to one income when we had our children. It's been fine without daycare or nannies.
Re: Developmental costs associated with early maternal withdrawal (2022)
#10Earlier quoted context omitted.
We were lucky to have some flexibility to spread the load. My wife and I both dropped down to 4 days a week, and my Mother-in-law looks after our son one day a week, so he has a Dad day, a Mum day, a Nana day, and 2 daycare days. To us it feels like the optimal setup, he gets some valuable one-on-one days with all the important people in his life, gets socialised at daycare, and no one gets too exhausted looking afte…
It's pretty similar to our current situation, how old is your child?
2 and a bit, we’re hoping to maintain it until he’s in full time school.