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Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
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Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#22I understand. You have lots of things to worry about. Try to take things one at a time. The two biggest concerns I'd have in your shoes: * money * visa status Money is probably a bit easier to deal with, so I'd focus on building your financial runway. Save whatever you can. Cut costs. I don't know your living situation at all, but think about big things (where you live, what you drive/how you commute) and little thin…
> Because you've survived 3 layoffs. So you are either a good employee, in a division that is doing relatively well, or both.
I should emphasize that if someone is laid off, that doesn't mean they aren't a good employee. Sometimes layoffs just happen and you're in the wrong place at the wrong time. Strategies shift or priorities change.
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#23I have been there for long periods of time. It is awful. the fear really damages your mental health. The longer it goes on, it will drive you crazy and make you do inadvisable things and get paranoid. My recommendation is make use of video therapists and career coaches to help you make better decisions. If you talk to your peers, you are giving too much information to people around you. It’s a bad idea. You can usual…
Can you please share any tips on how to find a career coach? I can web search, but any advice you can give based on what you have learned would be great. Thanks.
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
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#25Study up on Britain during World War 2. You could get bombed by the Germans any time.
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#26Your fear is counterproductive and you need to realize this as hard as it sounds. If your fear blocks you from doing a good job the chance for you to get fired is higher. The fear itself also blocks you from thinking which you need to do to take the necessary actions. Accept first that this is 'just' how it is and yes it would be tremendously shitty and a lot of work if your worst case scenario happens BUT it would h…
Fear is the mind killer. Not just a movie quote - a guideline for coping with uncertain times ahead.
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#27can't edit my post, but thanks everyone for the support and advice! all of them are really helpful
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#28Your fear is counterproductive and you need to realize this as hard as it sounds. If your fear blocks you from doing a good job the chance for you to get fired is higher. The fear itself also blocks you from thinking which you need to do to take the necessary actions. Accept first that this is 'just' how it is and yes it would be tremendously shitty and a lot of work if your worst case scenario happens BUT it would h…
Fear is the mind killer. Not just a movie quote - a guideline for coping with uncertain times ahead.
this is exactly what's happening, fear is killing my mind, day by day I am getting worse and doing stupid mistakes. while talking to management my blood pressure going up, because I fear if leadership thinks I am not good, I will be laid off soon
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#29The more you are attached to something, the harder it is for you to cope. If visa situation doesn't work out, be positive about the alternative: going back to another country or home country and start your life there. Since people don't want to focus on alternatives, they get depressed.
Re: Ask HN: How to cope with constant fear of getting laid off?
#30The more you are attached to something, the harder it is for you to cope. If visa situation doesn't work out, be positive about the alternative: going back to another country or home country and start your life there. Since people don't want to focus on alternatives, they get depressed.
you are absolutely right, there is always a choice, but some choices are bad and they are at the end of your choice list, so deep that you don't even consider it anymore as an option.