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Patience for after-hours work socializing is wearing thin
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Re: Patience for after-hours work socializing is wearing thin
#32I for one have had an incredibly great time that I've greatly enjoyed getting to hang out & socialize with all kinds of coworkers. I'm so glad I've gotten to connect with these people, in a less pressured way that the actual work environment seems unable to replicate. I've learned so much about people's lives, and learned so much background, and shared so many interesting stories. This feels like the end ya'll; anoth…
I mean the insane reaction to COVID (to lock down all cities for years) and send workers home is going to have major effects on down towns. Unfortunately my fellow urban dwellers supported these policies despite the fact they were going to hit cities hardest.
In my opinion it wasn't worth it, but this seems like a minority opinion . It's so important for innovation and career growth to have these opportunities.
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#33Corporate wonderland is an such an abnormal environment. How it all hasn't collapsed is a mystery.
Its structure is hierarchical, but the world has become a hyperconnected network. Underlings might have much more interesting networks than their bosses. In theory this should be putting lot pressure on what "orders" can flow top down. Its like pushing circus animals, trained to perform ever diverging niche tricks the whole day, into a common space and hoping connection happens. Its not going to happen. The circus is an abnormal space for connection.
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#34Nobody wants to hang out with sycophants. They are sad to watch. You are replaceable at work, but not replaceable at home.
This. The game just continues after 5 if leadership is at the "party".
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#35> “The flake-out rate is so much higher at events now,” says Gretchen Goldman, a research director in Takoma Park, Md. > This summer Goldman sent an invite to 100 colleagues for casual after-work drinks at some picnic tables just outside the office as a goodbye party. She was taking a new job with the federal government. Fewer than 10 showed up. Maybe don't have an event where people have to BYOB at work?? If I'm doi…
Here in LA - below the Valley - a lot of people are dry or drastically cutting down their alcohol intake. Not a selling point.
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#36I get it though, a bit of mingling is good for morale and most people are pretty nice.
But.. if socializing is important why not do it during office hours?
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#37I think the part that's not talked about is how much more risky it feels in 2023 to drink with co-workers than it did 10 or 20 years ago. Am I just getting old?
Drinking culture has largely changed for the better and I think workplaces are safer than they used to be. But I also think you'd have to be an idiot (or risk-blind) to get loose at company events like a lot of people used to do.
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#38Re: Patience for after-hours work socializing is wearing thin
#39Why the fuck would anyone schmooze to a boss/company who can fire you at anytime? At-will employment cuts both ways.
Not so much the boss, but I like my coworkers and enjoy an occasional night out with them. This might shock HN but not everyone despises their job and not everyone hates the people they work with. Company occasionally runs an optional dinner/entertainment night with food and drinks paid for. And I'm happy to participate.
> This might shock HN but not everyone despises their job and not everyone hates the people they work with.
Who is saying that? I don't despise my job or coworkers, but I'd rather spend time with my family after work. I don't really have that much free time so I prioritize.
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#40Maybe this borders the site guidelines, but I wish people would post less of these ragebait articles. Yeah we get it. People like to treat work as "work", and not deal with overwork, socialization, RTO, micro-managing, etc.
Yeah we get it. People like to treat work as "work", and not deal with overwork, socialization, RTO, micro-managing, etc.
you're not speaking for those people who need reminding about it, depending on their circumstances.
There is no "we" when making a single post.