When you're the best (A lane) it's easy to be magnanimous or nice. Your reward was the win and that gives you all the peace of mind needed for this. When you're the average or below average (C or D lanes) it's just as easy to be nice. Being far from the top means the competitive pressure is not as taxing and maybe even the effort is lower. In those lanes if you feel the pressure to be the best you can either become t…
One of the things I find frustrating in this particular area — and maybe not all areas are like this — is how much things like luck and questionable ethics separates A from B. I don't mean to suggest all of it is like that, or that A people are all unethical people who stumbled on their fortune by chance, but a lot of the differences between A and B that I see are due to things like B people being especially unlucky at where they landed their first job, or A people being especially lucky, or A people in fact being pretty ethically sketchy or outright corrupt about certain things. So I tend to get especially angry when I see these relatively big consequences from differences that don't really matter, or the differences aren't actually present, or people in the area professionally pretend all this stuff isn't going even though everyone wholly acknowledges in private it is.
So the more I think about it, the more I'm not really sure the swimming analogy is entirely apt. There you have a pretty clear criterion, and it's all about what lane you're in. In life, the criteria might differ from person to person, the lanes come with major consequences, and there's plenty of chances to game the criteria where they do exist. It's like if which lane you were in was determined by a lifeguard with a timer, but the swimming time differences between lanes were smaller than the error tolerance of the timing devices, and a majority of swimmers (but not all) were bribing the lifeguards for lanes.
The way in which the comparison is apt is that as you get "up" the lanes, the more and more stressful it gets, until you cash out or get a secure position or whatever, when it becomes worth it, whatever "it" is. So you're sensitive to BS until it doesn't matter because you've already got yours. As you go down, you're surrounded by people who don't really give a damn about trying to go up, it's just not a concern of theirs. So superficially the pattern of stress is probably similar. But in general, I'm not sure it's really the same processes causing that stress.