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> Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediately noticed less matches, less convos, and the app being more pushy. They also filter you based on age. When I turned 40+, everything changed in terms of presentation and matches literally the next day.
You don’t look a day over 35 on a dating app.
In general people throw the term shadow banned around too much. Whenever someone's content does poorly on youtube or tiktok they start claiming they've been shadow banned instead of considering their new content isn't worth watching.
When tinder came out my single friends all jumped on it. I probably went hoarse with all the tinfoil hat warnings I doled out.
Eventually I shrugged my shoulders and admitted maybe corps aren't as evil as I imagined.
Looking at this article I realise I was a fool to try and judge them during the onboarding phase. They are worse than I'd imagined.
My hot take: instead of writing articles complaining about online dating, the author should work on going out to meet women.
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The problem with all dating apps is the monetization. If you're truly successful on the app then you're no longer a customer. I really don't know the solution to this problem but until someone solves it all dating apps will devolve into dark patterns.
A dating app for couples that help them keep the spark alive?
Many of the popular dating apps are all owned by Match group -- Tinder, Match.com, Meetic, OkCupid, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, OurTime, etc. etc. It was a huge private equity play under IAC for awhile and then they spun out and IPOed but the universal dark patterns and enshitification isn't coincidental.
I downloaded Tinder right after I got single, back in 2015? It was glorious. It really did feel fun and exciting - I'm by no means a model-looking dude, but I got hundreds of matches in a fairly small place (think city with population of 50k), and people just felt more genuine and interested on the various apps back then. Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediatel…
The problem with all dating apps is the monetization. If you're truly successful on the app then you're no longer a customer. I really don't know the solution to this problem but until someone solves it all dating apps will devolve into dark patterns.
I downloaded Tinder right after I got single, back in 2015? It was glorious. It really did feel fun and exciting - I'm by no means a model-looking dude, but I got hundreds of matches in a fairly small place (think city with population of 50k), and people just felt more genuine and interested on the various apps back then. Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediatel…
The problem with all dating apps is the monetization. If you're truly successful on the app then you're no longer a customer. I really don't know the solution to this problem but until someone solves it all dating apps will devolve into dark patterns.
Explain the game to the user and make a package where the company reserves a large-ish sum on the credit card and they get to cash only when the user stops dating after a successful match.
The dating app doesn't make any money until a successful long-term. The dating app could also require feedback after dates, to both improve matching and verify that one user is not cheating.
If a couple colludes after they get i long-term relationship, they could continue dating... but it increases risks of cheating.
This aligns the interest of the daters and the dating company (less infrastructure expenses and also less risks from reserved but unpaid transactions).
There are open relationships, the app can learn to screen for people with profiles that are prone to that and avoid making the escrow offer.
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Show me the code.
If you could see the code, that’s the code you’d want to look at? I wanna see what my world ranking is lol