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I wonder why these Algorithms need to be opaque? If everyone knew the rules, it would be a level playing ground. Instead it allows the people who have all day/financial incentives to learn the rules.
I see you have never worked in anti-abuse.
I downloaded Tinder right after I got single, back in 2015? It was glorious. It really did feel fun and exciting - I'm by no means a model-looking dude, but I got hundreds of matches in a fairly small place (think city with population of 50k), and people just felt more genuine and interested on the various apps back then. Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediatel…
They also filter you based on age. When I turned 40+, everything changed in terms of presentation and matches literally the next day.
I wonder why these Algorithms need to be opaque? If everyone knew the rules, it would be a level playing ground. Instead it allows the people who have all day/financial incentives to learn the rules.
> Rule breakers often make new accounts after an outright ban, so the subtle yet frustrating shadowban can be a better way to curb misbehavior.
I downloaded Tinder right after I got single, back in 2015? It was glorious. It really did feel fun and exciting - I'm by no means a model-looking dude, but I got hundreds of matches in a fairly small place (think city with population of 50k), and people just felt more genuine and interested on the various apps back then. Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediatel…
I really don't know the solution to this problem but until someone solves it all dating apps will devolve into dark patterns.
It's been a while since I've been on Hinge, but Hinge is not like Tinder in terms of edgy/risque conversation, and I played every conversation with a match safe. I woke up one morning and was banned. They say you can appeal, but this seems like mostly something to make you feel like there's a possible recourse.
What I gathered from Reddit is that it's actually rather easy to get banned by simply not talking to people. There were a few times where I wouldn't message someone right away from not having a good ice breaker, I was busy, or the conversation just went nowhere and people would unmatch. When you unmatch with someone it asks if you'd like to report them as well. Since Hinge is meant to be a more serious dating platform, not talking to people can be seen as not taking the platform seriously and trying to hook up or something and if this happens enough times it seems Hinge will flag your account.
Look at the incentives. Dating apps want you to keep paying. That means they don't want you to meet someone worth entering a long-term rrlationship with. They want you to have just enough success to stay a customer. The occasional, not-awful date. Like playing the slots: you get occasional, small payouts, and you hear about other people winning jackpots (oops, they slipped up), so you keep putting money in. A believa…
I downloaded Tinder right after I got single, back in 2015? It was glorious. It really did feel fun and exciting - I'm by no means a model-looking dude, but I got hundreds of matches in a fairly small place (think city with population of 50k), and people just felt more genuine and interested on the various apps back then. Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediatel…
> Next time around I tried Tinder et. al. was a couple of years later(2018/2019), and I immediately noticed less matches, less convos, and the app being more pushy. They also filter you based on age. When I turned 40+, everything changed in terms of presentation and matches literally the next day.
>Anthony couldn’t think of anything that might have gotten his account flagged. Regardless, Hinge didn’t offer an explanation for his experience. It's been a while since I've been on Hinge, but Hinge is not like Tinder in terms of edgy/risque conversation, and I played every conversation with a match safe. I woke up one morning and was banned. They say you can appeal, but this seems like mostly something to make you…