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Re: Kris Nóva has died

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I was lucky enough to work with Kris Nova. I was gutted when I heard this and I'm still in shock. She was in the middle of doing the hachyderm thing and I was struggling with some other stuff and we ended up just happening to meet at a restaurant. "Fuck what people say and think, do you what you want, that's what I'm going to do." Here's a segment from one of her recent streams. This is how I will remember her: https…

Heartbreaking. That is a person who is living her best life.

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Re: Kris Nóva has died

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

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how do you know that? it’s a common route that can be lead with a rope and it is about 5.4 and she had a partner with her.

I'm not a mod, but I think it might be best not to continue this discussion right now out of respect for Kris.

Re: Kris Nóva has died

#77
post #21

Damn that sucks. She was running the mastodon instance with competency and openness and low drama. Seems like what all great engineers should embody.

She created the Nivenly Foundation to run it, and removed herself from the admin position a few months ago. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRxRNe6yeg0&t=1237

https://nivenly.org/projects/

Re: Kris Nóva has died

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I'm sorry you experienced that. I'm on the spectrum, and my son even more so. It's painful when my heart is in the right place, but neuro-typicals mistake my intent and refuse to believe me. It's taken a lot of effort for me to adjust my communication style to avoid those situations. Happily it's mostly paid off, but I'm sad that my son will likely need to walk the same path somewhat.

(am also on the spectrum)

> neuro-typicals mistake my intent and refuse to believe me

This is an idea I had to unlearn. We struggle as much understanding ourselves as understanding other people. When people react negatively to our behavior often times we immediately jump to extending unlimited benefit of the doubt to our own intentions. In reality, our perception of our own intentions are often post-hoc fabrications to preserve our self-image as a nice person. Letting go of this assumption was helpful to a better understanding of interpersonal interaction.

Re: Kris Nóva has died

#80
I didn't know Kris, but we had bumped into each-other at various times through open source work. I recall her being a very kind and also deeply technical. Once she was supposed to give a talk in Phoenix, and I was stoked to get to meet her in person finally, unfortunately it got cancelled due to COVID and so I never had the chance.

Rest in peace. I hope her loved ones are able to take the time to grieve and find solice

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