How to communicate when trust is low without digging yourself into a deeper hole

There are tons of articles on LinkedIn written by people who don’t have lived experience in what they’re writing about so they read like a book summary.

Empiricists on the other hand will preside test ideas.

The best teacher is reality.

I kind agree with you on your reading of the subtexts, here, but in a conversation, I just don't think these sentiments come off that way.

Rather, we tend to interpret them as noise that lets the other person know that a difficult topic is coming, instead of just dunking them in head first.

"Hey, I wanted to let you know about some bad news. one-breath pause " has always worked better for me, as both the deliverer and the recipient, than "Hey, ."

Basically what I'm saying is that you could definitely read into these suggested phrases, as you have; but they play out way differently in a real-life conversation.

But sometimes you have to work with people who demonstrate traits of Narcissism Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder. E.g. someone who never accepts responsibility or someone frequently demonstrating emotional lability.

I am not sure the best course of action in these situations.

> Say "please" and "thank you"... use emojis...

I'll add to this one -- use exclamation points!

It's actually ridiculous how effective all these little things are.

In my experience, men, engineers, and especially engineers who are men tend to think of this as unnecessary fluff. They often decline to add these little social niceties because to them, they sound inauthentic.

That's not a character flaw or anything! You have every right to feel that way. I do think it is just categorically wrong, though.

I don't know a better way to say it, but: you should really just start doing this. Even if it feels weird to you, it is incredible the degree to which it eases text-based interactions. Even if you aren't noticing it, I promise that other people are.