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> The ability of people without kids to have a firm belief on how they’d feel with or without them is also astonishing. First he tells me how I feel, now you're telling me what I believe? I don't know how I'd feel if I had kids. What I do know is that I "fully appreciate my moments without kids". If a non-parent told you that you can't truly enjoy your free time because you have kids, wouldn't that be a bit rude?
> If a non-parent told you that you can't truly enjoy your free time because you have kids, wouldn't that be a bit rude? Nah, I’d nod my head and agree, but I imagine that’s not the point you were going for xD I feel it’s like growing up, it’s hard to appreciate childhood, or university, or any of that until it’s passed. By the same token you start to appreciate the seas of time you had without children once you have…
In general I appreciate things a lot more in the moment than in retrospect. And I'm much happier now than I was as a child or a university student--the thing I appreciate most about those times is that they're over.
And look, it's fine we have different experiences--I'm not here to invalidate your experience. But when people say stuff like "You cannot fully appreciate your moments without kids until you have kids though" you're invalidating my experiences. That's total bullshit--you don't know anything about my life and whether or not I truly appreciate it.
If you want to talk about your experiences, that's cool, and I'm actually even interested to hear them. But don't pretend like your experience is some universal truth. It's not.