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This is a comic I love (titled: Weird): https://viruscomix.com/page500.html I store a copy in my "life changing comics" folder.
Ooooo... a peanut butter banana bacon sandwich sounds awesome.
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You're just going to off load your lost potential and lack of ambition on to your kids, and so on and so forth. It's the main reason why people have them.
The opposite is no good. I had 1 or 2 opportunities which a lot of people of my age were looking at with envy. I was not super gifted but they came out of passion: by working on the things I loved relentlessy, I ended up being noticed. I was good because I worked a lot . It was not hard work since it was stuff I enjoyed a lot to do, but I spent countless hours on it (about 25-30 hours a week in addition to my studies…
Then they should find something they are passionate enough about to succeed.
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Every moment without them is also unique.
You cannot fully appreciate your moments without kids until you have kids though.
The rational side of me tell me it is all my selfish gene in action. And I'm loving it.
There are talented people everywhere, the probability of somehow being ground breaking and world impactful is ridiculously small. Anyone pegging their self-worth on that goal is setting themselves up for a lot of mental health struggles. My levels of ambition and relentlessness absolutely shifted after having kids, I used to be absolutely furious about being the best. Now I am very much "fuck you pay me" and my prior…
It was once said that the national anthem of Hell is "My Way", and that the motto over the main gate reads "Do what thou wilt". Pride, radical individualism, self-promotion. These are extremely common today, especially in the US (just compare an American resume with a European CV). Both the US and Europe have their problems, but this particular obsession tends to be more conspicuous in the US. Paradoxically, it doesn…
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Every moment without them is also unique.
You cannot fully appreciate your moments without kids until you have kids though.
I didn't need to have my own kids to appreciate the peace of not having them (although at some point I do still intend to have kids, just not soon). I just had to frequently babysit my niece and nephew.
Nowadays I visit them only for a few days every few weeks and even then it's blatantly obvious that kids would mean a sharp drop in my ability to have as many different projects and hobbies as I do right now, for at least 5-10 years. Makes me really appreicate my moments without kids, as much as I also appreciate being able to see my niece and nephew grow and develop into their own selves.
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I should think that years of specialized C++ work in hft environments would have come with impressively high pay… in which case one could retire early and self study anything for fun, not hope to find a job for financial reasons.
Ideally, yes! Unfortunately, there is such a thing as being young and not knowing your own worth / not knowing how to negotiate / not having a manager who looks out for your career growth.
In that case, if web development is your interest, then you have many possible paths.
The primary choices are full stack, backend, or frontend.
Obviously full stack is most flexible because you can theoretically do it all. But keeping up with so many technologies simultaneously is really tiring.
Take a look at Phoenix framework. It is a fantastic way to get started, and it will grow with you into just about any future project need. Plus Elixir is an excellent language built on top of the incredibly powerful Erlang ecosystem.
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This is a great comic. Understanding and appreciating other people's differences goes a long way. So much harm comes from being fearful or judgemental of people who are different. Now I'm curious - what else is in your "life changing comics" folder?
Baki the Grappler.
I swear this guy exists at every company I've ever worked. He's the guy you go to when you find some legacy code which you have no idea how the hell it works and end up getting a 2 hour history lesson into a decade of company politics and failed replatforming projects. They're hard not to love.
> They're hard not to love. I often search for a clearcut answer to a technical question and I'm met with a 2 hour history lesson into a decade of company politics and failed replatforming projects. Yeah, thanks for telling me why John from accounting was a dick 10 years ago and you had to code this module in a certain way. I really don't care. I'm new to the codebase and I just want to know how it (the codebase) wor…