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Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Agreed. But isnt feminism about equality? Look, the inequality on Dating Apps is natural - it is a result of biologic difference between genders and their behavior. Certainly nothing wrong with that - you dont correct these. The others - like salaries, (which are of course also subjects to these differences) they want to correct them. Why? Because it benefits them - to have their cake and to eat it.

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

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Agreed. But isnt feminism about equality? Look, the inequality on Dating Apps is natural - it is a result of biologic difference between genders and their behavior. Certainly nothing wrong with that - you dont correct these. The others - like salaries, (which are of course also subjects to these differences) they want to correct them. Why? Because it benefits them - to have their cake and to eat it.

The true question is why are salaries (amongst many other things) subject to the gender. And from what I read above your comment, people do want to correct it in the dating apps too.

So, misplaced anger over self?

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Because we are cheap and disposable and way more generic than even those who are aware of it can conceive.

... like women are all special and interesting by virtue of being female? Most of humanity is bland and forgettable. Gender is hardly a factor there.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Agreed. But isnt feminism about equality? Look, the inequality on Dating Apps is natural - it is a result of biologic difference between genders and their behavior. Certainly nothing wrong with that - you dont correct these. The others - like salaries, (which are of course also subjects to these differences) they want to correct them. Why? Because it benefits them - to have their cake and to eat it.

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You're not doing anyone a favor with these statements.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Because we are cheap and disposable and way more generic than even those who are aware of it can conceive.

... like women are all special and interesting by virtue of being female? Most of humanity is bland and forgettable. Gender is hardly a factor there.

The comment hints at the fact that a group can easily loose a large number of their males, because it doesn't have to hinder procreation. Losing women is much harder to recover. Being special or interesting doesn't come into the equation.

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You're not doing anyone a favor with these statements.

i don't really care, but it's interesting to me that you seem to be more willing to go to bat for the person who feels as though they are owed attention from women.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Men are applying and women are hiring. Half the candidates are lying on their resumes. Many candidates are spamming their resumes indiscriminately. If you've ever had to hire someone for a position that attracts hundreds of candidates (i.e. software engineer with decent pay), you'll encounter the same dynamic. I hate being in that role. I have to reject 199 people and accept 1. Often, there are dozens of qualified ca…

> The way to avoid this mess when applying for jobs is to build up a network and lean on it for new positions. I wonder if dating may have a similar alternative approach.

The analogue would be court colleagues/coworkers. But today it may be considered harassment.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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post #17

Men are applying and women are hiring. Half the candidates are lying on their resumes. Many candidates are spamming their resumes indiscriminately. If you've ever had to hire someone for a position that attracts hundreds of candidates (i.e. software engineer with decent pay), you'll encounter the same dynamic. I hate being in that role. I have to reject 199 people and accept 1. Often, there are dozens of qualified ca…

> The way to avoid this mess when applying for jobs is to build up a network and lean on it for new positions. I wonder if dating may have a similar alternative approach. The analogue would be court colleagues/coworkers. But today it may be considered harassment.

no, the analogue would be a network of friends and family.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Men are applying and women are hiring. Half the candidates are lying on their resumes. Many candidates are spamming their resumes indiscriminately. If you've ever had to hire someone for a position that attracts hundreds of candidates (i.e. software engineer with decent pay), you'll encounter the same dynamic. I hate being in that role. I have to reject 199 people and accept 1. Often, there are dozens of qualified ca…

I like this metaphor on a few levels; from an employer's perspective, a family is the same as a second job and so naturally they prefer unattached employees.

Re: Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps [video]

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Because we are cheap and disposable and way more generic than even those who are aware of it can conceive.

... like women are all special and interesting by virtue of being female? Most of humanity is bland and forgettable. Gender is hardly a factor there.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women-are-wonderful_effect

> "...the effect decreased the higher a countries measure of gender equality. This effect seemed to be due to men being viewed less negatively the more egalitarian a country was rather than women being viewed more positively."

So, yes! At least some people think so.

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