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You'd be hard pressed to ever directly observe something that is astronomically tiny and emits extremely low frequency radiation, if any at all. When an accretion disk is actively ripping apart a celestial body the plasma is some of the hottest material in the current universe. It's extremely violent and bright. You're seeing a gravitational well converting a huge quantity of mass to energy.
Yes, as I understand it, the “turn-on” effect is from the plasma generated while the star is falling into the gravity well. The bit of the star that passes the event horizon would be tiny. Moreover, I believe that the radiation from an object falling into a black hole is redshifted so rapidly, that it effectively disappears from view in a very short time. An outside observer would not see anything “lingering” near th…
If the wavelength is a million longer, any event that would take 1 second to happen, appears to us as it took 12 days.