The main issue with sql is, that it is the wrong way around, which eliminates all tooling support. You need to state what you want (select a, b, c) before you tell it from where to get it (from). And no tooling can predict that. So switching this, moving from and joins in front of select, might be everything needed to fix sql.
This is also my primary issue with vi. d3w (`d`elete `3 w`ords) cannot be highlighted / indicated in any way ahead of time. If the motion specifier came first, it could be.
A good mindset to have in regards to Vim is, "Vim can do anything, even make you coffee". The trick with Vim is actually figuring out /how/ to do it.
I highly recommend you start with the VimCasts[1] video series. They're short, 5 minute, videos. With each covering a specific functionality of Vim. They straight to the point, and the author provides samples code for all videos.