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No your life experiences narrow the choices. You don't randomly emigrate. While the reasoning is wonky, there is , in reality, only a small pool of choices under consideration. Life is the 3rd party that reveals duds.
Yeah sure. But that's not Monty hall. "Life" is something you experience, not something that you know like "no car behind that door". You know after the fact.
In praise of blowing up your life
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Severe trauma? Really? Didn’t see any mention of violence, sexual assault, prison time, or the like. These seem like totally prosaic life choices that more or less worked out fine for him in the end. Maybe the language is a bit overwrought but that could just be to punch things up for the reader.
He was unable to make and keep connections that he found valuable enough to preserve. He wrote a post about blowing up your life and barely concentrated on the biggest reason not to, to preserve your social connections and proximity to the people you love to spend time with. I would be very surprised if this person did not have an "avoidant" attachment type. I think you underestimate how severe the trauma of feeling…