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Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by aaomidi »

pizzafeelsright wrote: post #12

What I find interesting and I am curious if these conversations can happen anymore. I no longer discuss anything related to gender, relationships, or personal life dynamics with anyone outside of my bubble. I would enjoy the conversation, learning about another's ideas and understanding although despite assurances of maturity and openness conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements. I do not believe id…

> I do not believe ideas and ideals can be discussed with the general public.

On the contrary, I love having these discussions.

Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by aaomidi »

andrewmcwatters wrote: post #18

To speak frankly, what are women doing with all this supposed surplus of education? I don't exactly see turning tides in terms of women beginning to dominate markets or leadership positions because they're starting businesses and startups and taking over boards and middle management positions. Anecdotally, I've seen these single women, they're all waiting until they're past their 20s to find a partner and they expect…

> Plainly, women are asking for too much, and too late in life.

Ah yes, the hive mind of women.

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Post by Tagbert »

sho_hn wrote: post #13
pizzafeelsright wrote: post #12

What I find interesting and I am curious if these conversations can happen anymore. I no longer discuss anything related to gender, relationships, or personal life dynamics with anyone outside of my bubble. I would enjoy the conversation, learning about another's ideas and understanding although despite assurances of maturity and openness conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements. I do not believe id…

Huh. Over here in Europe, we have these discussions all the time. They do get opinionated, of course. But it's not yet taboo.

It's not in the US, but it seems some people have become socially fearful. I think that there is an artificial sense of risk possibly driving by 24x7 news and social media that prey on people's fears and anxieties.

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Post by politician »

Towards the end, the article posits that the reason men fail to attain higher levels of education is video games.

I would be curious to see how the effect of video games stacks up against the effect of the significant support industry established for helping girls succeed in STEM while comparable support for boys is nonexistent.

Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by sho_hn »

andrewmcwatters wrote: post #18

To speak frankly, what are women doing with all this supposed surplus of education? I don't exactly see turning tides in terms of women beginning to dominate markets or leadership positions because they're starting businesses and startups and taking over boards and middle management positions. Anecdotally, I've seen these single women, they're all waiting until they're past their 20s to find a partner and they expect…

> they're all waiting until they're past their 20s to find a partner and they expect them all to be complete people by the time they meet them

I don't think this is female-specific. I see a lot of young men around me delaying "getting serious" into their mid-30s too, and have very high standards by that point.

I'd include myself. I met my wife at 30, and by that time I was also looking for someone in a similar life stage to mine.

Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by inconceivable »

it seems like society has engineered itself into a real pickle as evidenced by all the hand-wringing articles on this topic.

personally i find serious relationships to be a giant waste of time, probably because i'm no good at maintaining them or i just don't check all the boxes, or whatever. i like dating and commitment-free sex, so i really don't have much incentive to improve. i'm basically financially independent so i don't really care about paying for things most people would split. in the few instances i've sincerely tried to keep it going, it ended after no particular incident/fight/whatever. just fizzled out, or a non-dramatic breakup over text message, which doesn't really bother me. these things come and go and i have no real hangups about attachment or have any dependence issues.

personally i think there is no "fixing" this, at least for 20 or 30 years until a brand new generational cohort come into their 20s and 30s. non-immigrants are simply just going to get married less and have less children than were historically 'normal'.

Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by anonymouskimmer »

Off-topic, but on article, this starts to be the ratio at which disparate impact laws come in to effect (when it comes to hiring criteria, for instance):

> Broken down by degree type across all ages in the U.S., for every 100 men with bachelor’s degrees, there are 130 women. For those with master’s degrees, for every 100 men there are 134 women.

Re: Dating, education, and sex ratios

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Post by JimtheCoder »

andrewmcwatters wrote: post #18

To speak frankly, what are women doing with all this supposed surplus of education? I don't exactly see turning tides in terms of women beginning to dominate markets or leadership positions because they're starting businesses and startups and taking over boards and middle management positions. Anecdotally, I've seen these single women, they're all waiting until they're past their 20s to find a partner and they expect…

"what are women doing with all this supposed surplus of education?"

Maybe a surplus of education just means...they spent more time and money on school?

Dominating markets and leadership positions, building businesses...how much formal education you have rarely plays a big role in these endeavors...

Just my personal experience.

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