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In praise of blowing up your life

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Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by roldie »

Gigachad wrote: post #5

Moved to a bigger/better city this year. Was a bit of a daunting task as some friends and family advised against it and I had just bought my apartment a year ago. But it ended up being the best thing I ever did, completely changed everything about my life and I'm loving everything. I didn't go as extreme as the author and just jump in without any research, but I feel the benefits were the same without many risks. My…

I've been contemplating doing this for a while now. I'm definitely ready to move on from my current city.

But what holds me back is, frankly, that I'm scared of not having any friends. I don't want to have to rebuild my social circles. It takes a lot of effort just maintaining my current friendships (as we all get older, get busy, drift apart, etc.), but at least they're there already.

How did you handle this?

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Post by scarface_74 »

brightball wrote: post #256
scarface_74 wrote: post #226

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It literally is 300-400 units in a resort “hotel” and they rent out your unit as part of a pool of units. They do all of the marketing, replenishment of supplies for the kitchen, maintenance, payments etc. The units are rented out by the night just like a hotel when you aren’t there. But you don’t understand the other part. I’ve done the landlord thing before. I would rather get an anal probe with a cactus than ever…

I did the math on one of these in Clemson and it would have still cost me $10,000 / year if it was rented year round. I liked the model but the numbers didn’t work out to make it an investment. Sounds like the one you found does, so congrats!

The numbers don’t work at all for most people. It only works because we live there during off season as our only “home”.

Even then considering that we did a HELOC on our primary home (which is now rented out) , we still lose $12K a year that is only offset by moving to a state with no income taxes.

We also didn’t live in a state that thinks they have the right to tax you on all of your RSU grants that you got when you lived there even if you moved by the time the RSU’s vested.

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by moneywoes »

lm28469 wrote: post #157
Wonnk13 wrote: post #6

I don't entirely disagree, but the first thing that this article brought to mind is the old cliche "wherever you go, there you are". I'm 34, lots of ex girlfriends and lots of past cities. There's a fine line between breaking out of the status quo hamster wheel and running away from your baggage. Moving cities, or relationships, or jobs isn't worth as much if you aren't simultaneously working on yourself

It's as old as humanity > Do you suppose that you alone have had this experience? Are you surprised, as if it were a novelty, that after such long travel and so many changes of scene you have not been able to shake off the gloom and heaviness of your mind? You need a change of soul rather than a change of climate. Seneca, 2000 years ago More people should read the classics, lots of wisdom you can speed run instead of…

Anything you’d recommend

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by redmand »

varjag wrote: post #137

As someone who is getting older, I have this to say: don't take a life advice from a 20-something, no matter how well meaning they are.

I had the same thought -- " yet another writing by someone who's advice is 'do what I did' without any consideration beyond their own limited experience". This is especially frustrating when it comes from someone 20, 30, 40 years younger who doesn't have the life experience, much less can speak to your own life and how it should be managed. It worked for you, great, but don't assume to proselytize as if you're spouting truth.

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Post by antisthenes »

scarface_74 wrote: post #112

I’ve mentioned the last year of my life on HN where my wife and I decided to get rid of everything we own that wouldn’t fit in four suitcases including our cars and we became “hybrid digital nomads”. We fly to different cities across the US and stay in midrange extended stay hotels and stay in our own “Condotel”[1] the other six months in Florida. What I haven’t talked about is what got us to this point. I grew up in…

Right, so the "secret" to blowing up your life is just to have massive savings, income and rental property, so that instead of owning your possessions, you can just rent them for 2x the cost of ownership while being a digital nomad.

Got it.

Just in case someone finds this "profound".

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by antisthenes »

Woeps wrote: post #150
varjag wrote: post #137

As someone who is getting older, I have this to say: don't take a life advice from a 20-something, no matter how well meaning they are.

As somebody else who is getting older, I don't think life advice from any age should be taken at face value.

People need to filter their role models better, that's for sure.

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by badtension »

I blew up my life by quitting my job in January 2020 to find some new opportunities in the following months. Then the pandemic hit, my weekly training ended, extreme back and head pain came back, I wasn't able to fix myself up for a long time. Split with my gf, changed places to something that gave me extreme anxiety and a lot of gray hairs. Held off depression for a long time.

Now I slowly get back into healthier lifestyle and try to piece myself back together to something what once was.

It's very easy to write something like that especially after everything worked out well. Keep in mind there are many types of people and some of them will always land on top (I'd say those with the best networking skills, which I have zero).

I just want to stress something that is often missed. If you are feeling good in current status quo just think what kind of person you are, what skills you have, what is easy and what is hard. Don't change your life drastically until you get to know yourself well. You can't "power through" everything that happens and there's a level of suffering that makes it all not worth it in the end.

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Post by PascLeRasc »

Before taking advice from these comments, please think about Nonsurvivor Bias. Do you think someone who blew up their life and had it go incredibly well is spending their morning on Hacker News? Is that how your ideal summer day would be, when Golden Gate Park is right there?

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by kiliantics »

antisthenes wrote: post #275
scarface_74 wrote: post #112

I’ve mentioned the last year of my life on HN where my wife and I decided to get rid of everything we own that wouldn’t fit in four suitcases including our cars and we became “hybrid digital nomads”. We fly to different cities across the US and stay in midrange extended stay hotels and stay in our own “Condotel”[1] the other six months in Florida. What I haven’t talked about is what got us to this point. I grew up in…

Right, so the "secret" to blowing up your life is just to have massive savings, income and rental property, so that instead of owning your possessions, you can just rent them for 2x the cost of ownership while being a digital nomad. Got it. Just in case someone finds this "profound".

Not to mention a massive carbon footprint by the sounds of it

Re: In praise of blowing up your life

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Post by itairal »

hutzlibu wrote: post #210
varjag wrote: post #137

As someone who is getting older, I have this to say: don't take a life advice from a 20-something, no matter how well meaning they are.

Rather stick with old bitter people, who regret not being young anymore? Personally I can find wisdom in 2 year olds babbling, as well as 90 years old. It depends on the person and time. I discovered, that you can learn something from any person (even if it is, how not to do things). And age is not the determining factor.

It is interesting as the later I get into my 50s, I start thinking more and more how I should never listen to what people over 50 say.

Life is non-ergodic and the older you get the more you are over fit to a time that no longer exists.

At least youthful ignorance has a chance of actually being right. There is a pseudo-wisdom that comes with age that is almost always wrong going forward.

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