> Preferably self-hosted (I'm okay with paying for it) The big models, if even available, need >100GB of graphics memory to run and would likely take minutes to warm up. The pricing available via OpenAI/GCP/etc is only effective when you can multi-tenant many users. The cost to run one of these systems for private use would be ~$250k per year.
... strange. I'm running 30B models on a 10yr old PC with a $400 RTX 3060. Folks can run the 65B models with 4090 or dual 3090. Usually for about a cost of $2500.
It's easy to run a much worse model on much worse hardware, but there's a reason why it's only companies with huge datacenter investments running the top models.