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Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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ashton314 wrote: post #26
andreynering wrote: post #3

The church is like a second family for me. I made so many great friends there! Of course it will not be for everyone, but if you are open to it you can try.

+1 for this. No church is perfect, but my experience is that church is a place where I can go to gather with people from diverse backgrounds, perspectives, and needs and come together on some common points: we need more than ourselves to make it through life, we need to be kinder, and we should serve each other. I have seen my congregation rally around new parents, people with mental health conditions, and other such…

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Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by robbyking »

givemeethekeys wrote: post #71

Eaaasy: - Meetup.com - If you don't find a community for something you want to do, then start one! - Local sports clubs - Volunteering - Start going to EDM parties - pretty soon you'll see the same people. Say, "hi". - Facebook groups for pretty much everything. - Do what kids in the 80's did, and many still do: go to the local playground, and ask if you could also play with them. You're not too old, you're not too "…

When my mom moved to a new city I recommended she look for a hiking Meetup as a way to make some friends, and she ended up meeting her future husband there!

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by ghaff »

niklearnstodev wrote: post #10

Personally: -sports: climbing gyms/trips/facebook groups/etc, bike groups (not exclusively biking alone), hiking trips, etc Anecdotally: -drama clubs/local theatre productions -run clubs: while running is typically fairly isolated, there are social run clubs in cities that often go for a drink (no booze necessary) post-run -book clubs: random collections of people that discuss a book together -dinner clubs: sharing f…

At least on the coasts, clubs that do outdoors activities are fairly common. Doesn't need to be hardcore. There's the Appalachian Mountain Club in the Northeast US which dates to the 1800s. There are (unsurprisingly) at least a couple different Northern CA/PNW clubs though I'm less familiar with what they offer.

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by actinium226 »

When I can, I like to try to find local classes in something. That way you get to see a group of people more regularly, as opposed to one-off meetups. I've taken classes in acting, swing dancing, salsa. There's probably some cooking classes around, and given my local creative writing too. Hope that gives you some ideas.

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by robbyking »

givemeethekeys wrote: post #71

Eaaasy: - Meetup.com - If you don't find a community for something you want to do, then start one! - Local sports clubs - Volunteering - Start going to EDM parties - pretty soon you'll see the same people. Say, "hi". - Facebook groups for pretty much everything. - Do what kids in the 80's did, and many still do: go to the local playground, and ask if you could also play with them. You're not too old, you're not too "…

> Do what kids in the 80's did, and many still do: go to the local playground, and ask if you could also play with them.

I was a stay at home dad for a couple years, and I made a lot of long term friends this way. In one case I saw a guy riding his bike with a 2yo on the back so we chased them down and asked if they wanted to hang out and do bike nerd stuff together. That was almost 6 years ago and we're still friends

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by gedy »

Zetice wrote: post #34
geocrasher wrote: post #25

You asked, so I'll tell you: My local Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses. https://jw.org . I've never been happier in my life, and the sense of purpose, community, and security has never been higher. I won't espouse any religious teachings here, that's what the link above is for should you choose to visit it. The most amazing part is that it's genuine and trustworthy. It's all made of imperfect humans to be sure, bu…

Eh, it's genuine as long as you subscribe to their set of beliefs. This may not be a problem for you, but for folks who care about reality, it could be more difficult. The difference between this and say, a rec soccer team, is that it's an all-or-nothing endeavor. You can't "casually" become a Jehovah's Witness (or any other religion), you have to decide that your entire life is aligned to those principles. I'm not k…

> Eh, it's genuine as long as you subscribe to their set of beliefs. This may not be a problem for you, but for folks who care about reality, it could be more difficult.

Sounds like any friend/social group that has strong political beliefs too? Was enlightening to see this in 2016 when I shared I didn't vote for Hillary. Heaven forbid I voted libertarian, was like having a scarlet letter on my chest.

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by silisili »

My neighborhood. When we moved in we sat out front every evening, and made small talk with every single person who walked by. Some were caught off guard, some kinda just waved and moved on, but most stopped to talk.

What's interesting is that people who had lived in that neighborhood nearly 20 years together had never talked, and met for the first time as both stopped to chat at nearly the same time.

Then we started with small gifts, usually food because my wife cooks exotic things for people to try. Now we get random gifts, usually food or fruits or some flower or plant.

Now we have little get togethers inviting each other, text to ask if need anything from the store, etc. And all it took was being willing to sit outside for a couple hours each night and say hi.

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by Minor49er »

There's a group on Discord I hang out with that puts together experimental/industrial music compilations for charity. The group is highly creative which is fun and engaging

They actually just announced their next theme today and are looking for submissions that are based on serpents. Their "inspriation" page is like a floating museum gallery (so long as you're not using IE/Edge)

https://moonmusiq.com/serpents-compilation-info/

Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by xboxnolifes »

Zetice wrote: post #67
xboxnolifes wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There are quite a lot of varying degrees of casual believers in religion. I grew up in a family of Christians/Catholics who never go to church, rarely say grace, have never personally read the Bible, but still believe in God/afterlife/etc and have personal beliefs that are molded from religious teachings. I know at least for the Christian based religious groups I'm aware of, you don't even need to share faith to be p…

For Jehovah's Witnesses specifically, this could not be further from the truth [0], and for Christian groups generally, you beg the question here by ceding one must believe in that religion's concept of a deity/afterlife/etc. Such a belief is extremely hard to come by if not raised in that religion, and even harder if you're attached to reality's cause-effect relationships. Not impossible! But hard. And you're right;…

Citing a disciplinary rulebook is not citing reality.
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