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I was expecting "your life will likely end in failure and disappointment, so you might as well cut your losses" but got "give up on your failed startup so you can play more D&D."
Jokes on them, i have a D&D related startup.
My dream is to move to a different country that people who think like this are far away geographically.
In the true Murican spirit you can compensate natural abilities with "hard work" -- for a time. But the final failure is more colossal and brutal. This seems to be behind most "burnout"-issues. For years you have to fake and try to keep up with more gifted coworkers. Only few get lucky and get to the fat cat department, before burning out.
Yup. I’ve done this and seen it happen in others. When I started my career, I could stay up late or pull an all nighter to focus on and clutch out some project, make a deadline, or whatever.
The first time I didn’t make it, was an eye opener.
15 years later I fell into a semi-related trap. Instead of getting help, I was pouring more and more of my time (without all nighters) into a project that was continually “almost there, except for this one thing...” and got negative but helpful feedback after a meeting where we had to “reset the plan.”
Any one of those earlier problems could’ve been addressed if I hadn’t tried to shield the team from them, even if it meant changing the requirements or budget. Instead, we got to the end, and had nothing to show but a bunch of partially-working pieces.
This line is so cringe to me: "On the other hand, consider a founder with a more complex sense of self, including identities such as: “founder,” “husband,” “guitar enthusiast,” “soccer player,” “friend,” and “father.” My dream is to move to a different country that people who think like this are far away geographically.
Conversely, I suspect you're envisioning the kind of person who tries to put all those focuses on their LinkedIn profile, and I agree that person is a bit annoying and totally unnecessary.
I took time out to work on a personal project that sounds a lot like this article, a lot of what's said here resonated with me really strongly. It's funny how the spark of an idea and excitement can fade once the reality sets in and doesn't match what was in your head. Endlessly plugging away at it, trying force the outcome you want through sheer will can be quite exhausting and defeating. One surprising take away fo…
I’d be interested in joining forces (I’m in the same boat) if you’re ever interested in starting back up or just want to build a project together. I’m not looking for a unicorn, just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired.
> just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired.
Implying you are wealthy and have oversight over most the company
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4ZnfCmTJMY To me dreams are like religion - the longer it is since you gave up on them the crazier it seems that you ever believed. A dream is just some story you've made up, with you as a protagonist, and pursuing a dream means trying to bend reality to match that story, and then being pissed off because you can't
This relies upon the premise that all dreams pursued fail, which is ridiculous and not hard to disprove by speaking to someone who has achieved a dream.
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I’d be interested in joining forces (I’m in the same boat) if you’re ever interested in starting back up or just want to build a project together. I’m not looking for a unicorn, just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired.
I'm not knocking your goal here, but it's not exactly unique. I'm fairly certain everyone would be fine with > just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired. Implying you are wealthy and have oversight over most the company
As an old man once told me: Wealth should not be mistaken for riches. Wealth is the ability to generate richness and experiences. You can be ridiculously wealthy but poor as a bum.
I have no desire to be rich and most of us here are probably fairly wealthy.
As for "oversight over most the company" I have no idea where you got that from. I just said (in so many words) "I'd like the ability to fire/remove/never hire meeting-spawners."
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I'm not knocking your goal here, but it's not exactly unique. I'm fairly certain everyone would be fine with > just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired. Implying you are wealthy and have oversight over most the company
> Implying you are wealthy and have oversight over most the company As an old man once told me: Wealth should not be mistaken for riches. Wealth is the ability to generate richness and experiences. You can be ridiculously wealthy but poor as a bum. I have no desire to be rich and most of us here are probably fairly wealthy. As for "oversight over most the company" I have no idea where you got that from. I just said (…
An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican replied, “only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”
The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.”
The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?”
To which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.”
“But what then?” Asked the Mexican.
The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!”
“Millions – then what?”
The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”
-Dr. Faisal Jamshaid
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> Implying you are wealthy and have oversight over most the company As an old man once told me: Wealth should not be mistaken for riches. Wealth is the ability to generate richness and experiences. You can be ridiculously wealthy but poor as a bum. I have no desire to be rich and most of us here are probably fairly wealthy. As for "oversight over most the company" I have no idea where you got that from. I just said (…
If you control all of hiring, you have the power to shape the entire company in your image, is what I mean.