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Why You Should Give Up on Your Dreams

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Re: Why You Should Give Up on Your Dreams

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Post by alexalx666 »

lastangryman wrote: post #3

I took time out to work on a personal project that sounds a lot like this article, a lot of what's said here resonated with me really strongly. It's funny how the spark of an idea and excitement can fade once the reality sets in and doesn't match what was in your head. Endlessly plugging away at it, trying force the outcome you want through sheer will can be quite exhausting and defeating. One surprising take away fo…

I think its next to impossible to complete anything sufficiently complex if I don't enjoy the process itself

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Post by peterlk »

techisneat wrote: post #4

I’d rather die with the knowing that I did everything to achieve my dreams.. rather than the regret of knowing I never took the leap.

This assumes that your dreams are internally consistent and that you have defined them well enough to know when you’ve achieved them. I’ve met very few people whose dreams that satisfied both of those criteria. If you are one of them, my anecdata marks you as the exception

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Post by timonoko »

In the true Murican spirit you can compensate natural abilities with "hard work" -- for a time. But the final failure is more colossal and brutal. This seems to be behind most "burnout"-issues. For years you have to fake and try to keep up with more gifted coworkers. Only few get lucky and get to the fat cat department, before burning out.

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Post by krageon »

circlefavshape wrote: post #9

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4ZnfCmTJMY To me dreams are like religion - the longer it is since you gave up on them the crazier it seems that you ever believed. A dream is just some story you've made up, with you as a protagonist, and pursuing a dream means trying to bend reality to match that story, and then being pissed off because you can't

This relies upon the premise that all dreams pursued fail, which is ridiculous and not hard to disprove by speaking to someone who has achieved a dream.

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Post by withinboredom »

circlefavshape wrote: post #9

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4ZnfCmTJMY To me dreams are like religion - the longer it is since you gave up on them the crazier it seems that you ever believed. A dream is just some story you've made up, with you as a protagonist, and pursuing a dream means trying to bend reality to match that story, and then being pissed off because you can't

It depends on how realistic your dream is. My dream is to own a wine bar and travel the world. Unless I have something else going on, it is unlikely I would have the money and time to travel the world while owning a wine bar.

I haven’t given up my dream, but getting that “something else” is working towards it.

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Post by withinboredom »

lastangryman wrote: post #3

I took time out to work on a personal project that sounds a lot like this article, a lot of what's said here resonated with me really strongly. It's funny how the spark of an idea and excitement can fade once the reality sets in and doesn't match what was in your head. Endlessly plugging away at it, trying force the outcome you want through sheer will can be quite exhausting and defeating. One surprising take away fo…

I’d be interested in joining forces (I’m in the same boat) if you’re ever interested in starting back up or just want to build a project together. I’m not looking for a unicorn, just enough money where I don’t care about money and enough control that meeting-spawners won’t get hired.
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