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Isn't that because the product manager is gathering requirements from other orgs/users? > I have never seen feedback from estimation to requirements. Perhaps you work with perfect pms! jokes aside, usually all it takes is an estimation of 8 or 13 and something changes real fast.
Yea, they tell you that they don't believe your estimates and stop asking for them before setting the deadline.
The entire point of agile is that a PM can't do that. Large estimates force a PM to go back to stakeholders and revise the desired features to something that engineers have consensus that should be deliverable within the next sprint given their historical velocity.
If you're not doing that, then you're not even in any conversation about agile/scrum.