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you feel betrayed because he played on your emotions to promote his product ? yet that's how most of ads/marketing works
It's much worse because it took much more time from me than an ad. Usually ads look like ads, even when they're advertorials.
> "Today, I am excited to announce my 4-week daily guided program, The Anxious Developer Program!" > "You can join our waitlist now, to be the first one to know when the pre-sale begins" Talking about FOMO anxiety then announcing a pre-sale discount to your anxiety course is a kind of a bad look.
you feel betrayed because he played on your emotions to promote his product ? yet that's how most of ads/marketing works
Since my original post, I also included a disclaimer that people don't need to buy my program in order to overcome anxiety and what other things they can do that might help.
I hope it all makes it clearer now. Thanks for the feedback!
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> It's hard to overstate how much a good mentor/coach can improve your progress in almost every endeavor. Any suggestions how to find a good coach as a SWE? I have 8 YoE and was most recently a staff engineer at a small-ish startup, and the perspective that job gave me has kindled some thoughts about taking my career to the next level, but I feel like I need a little bit of guidance.
I've interacted with a few business/life coaches over the years, and I have found that clicked perfectly for me. To find them a combination of: - Using search engines for "life coach" or "business coach" in your area - Find people that you respect in your industry, reach out to them over twitter/linkedin/email/whatever, clearly stating you're looking for a coach, and if there is anyone they recommend. After you find…
As a junior, I started out loving my job. Then the bad decisions from management started and I started to love my job less, I still woke up with some excitement. 2 and a half years later: today what I do has more to do with pressure and deadlines than with learning and/or doing the right thing. Today, I find it unsustainable to work 8 hours a day, I've come to hate what I do, I can't imagine looking for another job d…
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Is your manager or anyone else in the team harassing you? If not, then your anxiety might come from an expectation that you must love every part of your job. Use something like pomodoro (this is simple and works: https://brainpls.work/ ) to do one task at a time. Once your work day is over, go do something you enjoy.
>> Is your manager or anyone else in the team harassing you? No that's not the problem. I suffer a lot with context switching all the time, I'm responsible for many serious things that could lead the startup to a completely failure. I'm really not sure if I have the skills for the task/challenge, etc. People like me and my job, but I'm pretty sure I don't have the skills for so much just yet, I think that is the sour…
I believe I'm in a similar situation. Currently on a small startup where I do backend/frontend programming in Typescript, C, Golang and Lua across multiple different projects. I'm high on ADHD and context switching is very difficult to me, to the point where if I start a day working on a project and finish it early, I end up not switching contexts until the next day.
> I'm really not sure if I have the skills for the task/challenge, etc. People like me and my job, but I'm pretty sure I don't have the skills for so much just yet, I think that is the source of all the anxiety.
This seems a bit like imposter syndrome. When I was younger (38 now, almost 20 years working as a programmer) it bothered me when I was not working hard and I felt the need to always show myself being very productive. In time you will learn to care less about how you are perceived at work.
> Plus doing/feeling it 8h/day every day kills my mind.
Do you really code 8h/day? If so you seriously need to lower your pace as this is not sustainable. Pick one or two cognitive heavy tasks you can complete in a couple of hours and once done do light things such as answering questions on slack, writing documentation. Also take healthy pauses to read HN and other articles you find interesting (this is what I'm doing now).
Overall, try to view your job as a marathon and not as a sprint. It is fine to work hard when on a tight deadline, as long as it is the exception.
Here are other very good answers in this HN thread:
- https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35793026 - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35793147
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Most of us old timers have been there, done that. At some level, it never changes. It is VERY difficult for work to provide your true meaning in life. 95% of software is personal preference. Most code will be thrown away when priorities change. Do the best you can and learn when you can. Management will always make poor decisions and are usually not interested in unfortunate truths. Work should only be what is requir…
I have to admit, at 40 a raison dêtre is still escaping from my grasp, even with family, work and hobbies. Not sure if I'm going to find one for my whole life but whatever.
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you feel betrayed because he played on your emotions to promote his product ? yet that's how most of ads/marketing works
I would like to get your perspective on how did I exactly play with the reader's emotions, if I just shared my personal story and just gave suggestions on how to deal with stress at work? I am mentioning my program at the end of the article, after I made sure to provide value to the reader... Since my original post, I also included a disclaimer that people don't need to buy my program in order to overcome anxiety and…
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I would like to get your perspective on how did I exactly play with the reader's emotions, if I just shared my personal story and just gave suggestions on how to deal with stress at work? I am mentioning my program at the end of the article, after I made sure to provide value to the reader... Since my original post, I also included a disclaimer that people don't need to buy my program in order to overcome anxiety and…
I actually think it's clever marketing but I can understand how it can be disappointing for some ... I was just trying to understand why that person said what they said
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I have to admit, at 40 a raison dêtre is still escaping from my grasp, even with family, work and hobbies. Not sure if I'm going to find one for my whole life but whatever.
Is there way to help others in your life? Either by volunteering or via your hobbies? Selflessness is very cathartic in my experience.
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Is there way to help others in your life? Either by volunteering or via your hobbies? Selflessness is very cathartic in my experience.
You have a point. I'm actually thinking about it. Helping other people is probably the only thing that made me happy throughout life. Unlike others such as gaming that only keep me happy when I was younger.