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I would be more sympathetic to this line of thinking if I didn't have a 16yo who's going to be lucky to get through high school because he can't focus in class. I would have been the same at his age, if someone had plopped an internet connected device on my desk and told me to focus on school work.
At this age boys go through a profound neurological change. Check out “The Male Brain” I’ve advised a lot of parents at this stage, the prescription is always the same: Let go of extrinsic motivation (their brains are severely muted against it) Focus on cultivating empty time & space to find intrinsic motivation As a dad myself, even with this knowledge, it was scary to take off expectations and let my boys flounder…
It's funny. My school had block scheduling, so four coursers per day at 80 minutes a piece, and a really insanely large catalogue of electives. We were the only school in the area and some kids' bus ride was 30 minutes or more, so it was very very well funded and had a lot of trade programs. I did a lot of dabbling. I always did horribly in my actual required classes, but on the flipside, found a lot of passion and fulfillment in the classes where, for the entirety of the semester, you kind of just had a single project that you were working on by yourself. You showed up to the room to check in and then just used the facilities to kind of do your own thing.
I did all kinds of stuff. An electronics class, photography, jewelry making, metalcrafting, shop, programming. I actually believe it's a huge part of why I was able to even finish school in the first place.
> But for both of them, as well as for the many other young men whose parents went this path, their son found their “thing”
I started programming when I was 11, so even high school felt like kind of a joke, as I knew what I was going to do and also knew that high school for the most part wasn't teaching me it. Generally kind of a distraction.
> but that just delays this process to their 20s
I would say I still haven't really had this process. For better or worse, I guess.