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I’ve been single all my life

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Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Being a woman means being a female.

Not so. For one, trans women are women, but are not biologically female. For another, being a woman is primarily about fulfilling a certain role in society, having a certain relationship to people based on your gender and theirs. That's got very little to do with biological sex. Like I said, there's nothing biological about wearing dresses. Kilts and skirts are virtually identical, but one of them is seen as very mas…

You are confused so you try to get everyone around you to redefine their vocabulary.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Nops. Trans "women" are not women. They don't meet any biological criteria for that, they can't operate functionally as woman. There are not trans-females in any other species, as this is exclusivelly a cultural and psychological phenomena in humans. As you said yourself, there's nothing biological about wearing dresses, thus, using a dress doesn't make you a woman. As human beings, trans people deserve care and resp…

Trans women are women. No other species may have trans individuals, but no other species has men or women either, or if they do, it's beyond our understanding (in the same way our understanding of their vocalizations or the way they think or experience is limited). Wearing a dress doesn't make you a woman, identifying as a woman and fulfilling that role in society does (which does often involve wearing dresses). If y…

> If you support trans people's right to exist as humans

Absolutist statements like this ("if you don't agree with my point of view, that means your viewpoint is the worst of the worst") make people not want to look further into or agree with your ideology, and are ironically binary.

Those distingushing between trans women and women and those thinking trans people have no right to exist as humans are not the same group. You've bent this entire discussion to try and make it about the talking point you wanted to make, so hopefully you're pleased you did it.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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depression and shyness are not the same, get drunk and go act stupid like everybody else

I'm over 30. 2 years ago I was drunk, on coke and had a girl naked in front of me saying "Fuck me" and I still managed to botch it. This only happened once I normally manage to run as soon as I sense that a girl may be interested in me. It's not easy for some people.

I wasn't imagining that scenario to be very honest, I was more imagining saying hi to a group of strangers at a pub.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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> I don’t think women’s rights should be up for discussion just because some men don’t get laid Excellent quote re incel culture. This is a great piece of writing. It provoked a possibly-random thought. I cant afford to own a home in San Francisco. I want to because I was born there and always assumed I would. But sometimes it seems clear that no matter how bad I want that I'll never have it and that starts to make m…

Thank you, happy you liked my writing! And I could actually see myself adapting the term mehcel.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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> On the one hand, I get lonely, intensely lonely at times. And I miss the companionship I had (before it got awful.) I know the feeling, though perhaps not so deeply. My LTR was only 7 years. > Dating seems dire these days as well. Depending on your religious moors, you might consider hitting some conservative churches.

> Depending on your religious moors, you might consider hitting some conservative churches. If OP is a Spaniard, they might not like "religious moors". Not to be pedantic, but I think you meant "mores" (pronounced like "morays").

The Spaniard I met in Grenada was definitely complaining to me about moros necios lol

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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I'd wonder how many women this guy (and guys who relate to this post) are incidentally meeting every week. When I was in my mid 20s after uni, it was basically zero. Just women at work, if even that. If so, this is basically the result you can expect and nothing is going to change until you get those numbers up. The common thread I see with guys not meeting women is almost never "I meet a lot of women but they never…

As someone wiser than me once commented -- nobody is going to knock on your door. If you want to meet people, you have to get out there and do things that put you around people.

The Roman poet Ovid summed up the same sentiment perfectly: "She will not come to you through the shimmering air, you must venture to meet the one you will love".
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