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What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

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Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

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Empathy deals with the emotional systems (I feel you). Sympathy deals with intellectual (I understand what you feel or imagine it must feel like x). Compassion is a transcendent experience in which you try to imagine yourself in the shoes of another.

I would describe the first two more like:

I feel with you. I have feelings for you.

Sympathy for me is liking someone or something e.g. an idea whereas I understand empathy as to be able to understand and share someone’s emotion/emotional situation.

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#12

12 year old me playing D&D: "What is the purpose of having separate intelligence and wisdom stats? They are the same thing!" Older me: "Oh."

Intelligence: Here is how you can remove this fence. Wisdom: Should we really be removing this fence?

Exactly. The famous Chesterton’s Fence.

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

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I think it's clearer to create a tree:

Empathy |--Sympathy (positive view of the result of empathizing) |--Antipathy (negative view of the result of empathizing)

For example, one could empathize with someone who is consumed with hatred of other people, and possibly understand how they came to adopt that view, while strongly disliking that kind of mentality, and that would be antipathy. One could even have compassion for such a person, while also accepting that they need to be locked up in a prison because of their history of serial murder of other people.

Alternatively, one could empathize with a parent fleeing a war zone with children in tow, and most people would be sympathetic towards that person and their motivations, because one could understand why a parent would want to protect their children from harm, at a personal emotional level. A compassionate response would be to say, "Perhaps our government / community can provide some basic resources for these people, and why not also try to stop that war from continuing so we don't have to take in all these refugees, as well?"

Empathy doesn't really have an opposite, but it is a capability which may be missing in some people, comparable to vision vs. blindness. A person lacking any sense of empathy is somewhat rare, but they do exist and are generally categorized as sociopathic narcissists... they do tend to be a bit on the power-mad side of things, and hence are more frequently found running governments, corporations, and (other?) organized crime cartels, as well as starting wars, etc.

Perhaps the lack of empathy is genetic in nature? Someone could come up with a DNA test, perhaps.

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

#16

12 year old me playing D&D: "What is the purpose of having separate intelligence and wisdom stats? They are the same thing!" Older me: "Oh."

Intelligence: Here is how you can remove this fence. Wisdom: Should we really be removing this fence?

Intelligence: A tomato is a fruit

Wisdom: It does not belong in a fruit salad

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

#17
Fun fact: empathy comes from the Greek word «εμπάθεια» which nowadays means disliking someone. The word change meaning throughout the years, so in English retained the original meaning while in modern Greek the meaning is the exact opposite.

The result is ofc confusion when someone is using the word in Greek, because often times one can’t be sure what is the authors intent :-)

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

#18

Empathy: the ability to feel what others feel. Sympathy: you align with that they feel, not merely understand it. Compassion: you're doing something about it, not merely aligning with it.

But don't you feel that sometimes Sympathy has alot of negative connotations associated to it when compared to Empathy? (Which in turn puts you in a position of dis-alignment)

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

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12 year old me playing D&D: "What is the purpose of having separate intelligence and wisdom stats? They are the same thing!" Older me: "Oh."

My fighter is somewhat wise but not so smart. At least he knows he isn't the smartest, thus he writes everything down in a journal he deems important. He doesn't come up with the most interesting or cunning solutions. But he knows that good preparation, a solid formation and sharp weapons can solve many problems and avoid pitfalls.

The opposite (smart but not wise) would be someone who is book smart or even a smart-ass. Probably coming up with all sorts of crazy and interesting ideas, but doesn't necessarily judge situation too well and might quickly discard simple but effective solutions. They might be quick minded and suddenly do high risk/reward kind of moves that either save the day or fail spectacularly.

Re: What's the Difference Between Empathy, Sympathy, and Compassion?

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This isn't a bad piece, but it somewhat oversimplifies these concepts. For example, "compathy" is more directly "viscerally feeling what another feels" while "empathy" is more accurately defined as the intellectual or emotional capacity for engaging in compathy. That capacity can be grounded in actually feeling what the observed other feels -- which, arguably, is impossible if the observed is experiencing something t…

Sympathy literally means "feeling together".

I think that's empathy - which may also result in antipathy and revulsion, e.g. one may empathetically understand why some person would want to own slaves or sit atop a strict hierarchical-religious power structure, as they like the feeling of having absolute power over others, while strongly disliking such motivations and having no sympathy for people who engage in that behavior.
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