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Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by GalenErso »

ryanwaggoner wrote: post #24
GalenErso wrote: post #18

You're not alone (pun intended). Record numbers of Americans, men and women alike, are single. > Nearly 118 million Americans, or about 46% of those over 18 years old, are single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. But that percent is actually much higher for women—a record-breaking 52% of them are unmarried or separated as of 2021, according to a recent report from Wells Fargo Economics. https://fortune.com/2023/0…

Does that article use “single” to mean someone who isn’t married? Because that leaves out a lot of partnered people. Pew reports 31% of Americans are unpartnered, and of those, half are looking and half aren’t: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profi...

An equal share of men and women are single (31%), but among 18-29 year olds, 51% of men are single, while only 32% of women are. What gives? People don't necessarily partner with people in their age group (e.g. a 27 yo woman partnered with a 31 yo man), but that's not enough to explain the gap, is it?

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by mr_mitm »

CoolioMqSo wrote: post #26

I felt like I had to say this FYI This guy isn't ugly, actually average looking 30yr old white guy, isn't short, is socially active. I honestly have no idea why this guy is still a virgin, im pretty sure he could find someone on a dating app if he got in shape.

Maybe he has psychological issues. For example, people with schizoid personality disorder tend to be single because they have trouble connecting with people.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by dividedbyzero »

GalenErso wrote: post #18

You're not alone (pun intended). Record numbers of Americans, men and women alike, are single. > Nearly 118 million Americans, or about 46% of those over 18 years old, are single, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. But that percent is actually much higher for women—a record-breaking 52% of them are unmarried or separated as of 2021, according to a recent report from Wells Fargo Economics. https://fortune.com/2023/0…

Can't read the article due to their paywall but your quote makes it sound like unmarried and single is the same thing, which strikes me as an outlandish assumption in this day and age. Surely there are lots and lots of unmarried couples as well?

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by nicoburns »

GalenErso wrote: post #31
ryanwaggoner wrote: post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Does that article use “single” to mean someone who isn’t married? Because that leaves out a lot of partnered people. Pew reports 31% of Americans are unpartnered, and of those, half are looking and half aren’t: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profi...

An equal share of men and women are single (31%), but among 18-29 year olds, 51% of men are single, while only 32% of women are. What gives? People don't necessarily partner with people in their age group (e.g. a 27 yo woman partnered with a 31 yo man), but that's not enough to explain the gap, is it?

Could be women in that age group dating outside of that age group? And/or more lesbians in couples than gay men?

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by jamesgill »

There's no algorithm for relationships, or entering one, or leaving one. It's a series of choices and actions with unpredictable results.

This makes some people so uncomfortable that they blame a mythological algorithm ('oh, haven't had any opportunities', 'oh, I just don't want to settle') instead of just making choices and taking actions. This is why dating apps are popular, because they promote the idea that relationships can be reduced to algorithms of trait selection and numeric increase in 'opportunities'.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by all2 »

CoolioMqSo wrote: post #26

I felt like I had to say this FYI This guy isn't ugly, actually average looking 30yr old white guy, isn't short, is socially active. I honestly have no idea why this guy is still a virgin, im pretty sure he could find someone on a dating app if he got in shape.

Low drive to mate could be because his T is low. I wonder if he's had his hormones checked.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by baking »

I was happily single until my mid-thirties and wasn't even really looking for a relationship. I realize now that getting married probably saved my life. Married men life much longer than single men because they have someone to tell them to go to the doctor.

So yeah, stay single if you want, but get a good doctor and don't skip the annual physicals.

Re: I’ve been single all my life

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Post by hammyhavoc »

jakeva wrote: post #7

I haven't been single all my life, but the relationships I have had have taught me things that makes it easier to be single. I remember the good times fondly, but the bad times remind me why being single isn't so bad.

How many years has it been since your last bad experience?

Because I used to relate to this sentiment, but with time (a decade), it all disappears, and whilst not on speaking terms, all is forgiven from my end. People talk about "personal growth", and whilst I wrote it off as hogwash, actually, no, letting go of the past is a huge part of that. It can be done.

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