I’ve been single all my life
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I’ve been single all my life
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I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12.
After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with the fact that my drive to fulfill this desire overrides pretty much any degree of pain or dissatisfaction from prior relationships. I've prayed plenty of times to have this desire taken from me because it screwed with my head to be single. As if this one thing was a gateway to the rest of my life. I know that's not fundamentally true, and I haven't put my life on hold just because I lack a romantic relationship.
I generally advise even hesitant men to "go for it" because they won't make any progress towards a goal if they don't get over themselves and try. To the guys who have tried and failed, I say "take damage, keep moving".
There are whole groups of men on the other side of failed relationships that are utter poison to everyone around them.
If anyone needs a cheerleader or someone to keep them accountable, let me know.
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#4Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrose... --- [edit for commentary] I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12. After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with th…
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#5Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrose... --- [edit for commentary] I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12. After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with th…
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It is a shame how few people will get to see this joke
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#6People that choose to live primarily in the world of logic and reason sometimes forget to nurture their emotions and feelings, and that side of them can atrophy. I suspect this guy has hidden and suppressed his desires due to some fears about relationships.
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#7I haven't been single all my life, but the relationships I have had have taught me things that makes it easier to be single. I remember the good times fondly, but the bad times remind me why being single isn't so bad.
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#8Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrose... --- [edit for commentary] I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12. After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with th…
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As we all get older we tend to scale horizontally, which is also a problem.
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#9Archive link for those who are having issues getting the article to load: https://web.archive.org/web/20230410132952/https://lukasrose... --- [edit for commentary] I was like the author, except I have had a burning desire to have family and children since I was a boy. I started thinking about fatherhood when I was maybe 12. After a failed long term relationship, and three or four girlfriends I finally settled with th…
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#10The OP reminds me of some of the aromantic and asexual folk I've known. Not necessarily prescribing any label on his account. Just merely a thought based on a particular line is one I've heard a number times;
> my general reply is the combination of a lack of opportunities and a lack of desire
That said, I am very interested in hearing him extrapolate his thoughts further. I do use the aromantic and asexual label myself (in particular the gray aroace label), though I always find the little nuances in how different people express themselves incredibly fascinating.