I'm a recovering alcoholic who has worked the 12 steps. To get this out the way, I agree that courts should not be sending people to AA. It's no good for anyone. The reason that the 5 to 10 percent do well in AA actually doesn't have to do with the 12 steps themselves; it has to do with the camaraderie. I agree with the second half of the that sentence, but the reason the reason many people including researchers don'…
The steps are good advice and can be helpful for some people. That does not mean people who fail (80+% from the data I saw) are doing them wrong. Why is it so hard for people to accept that some things work, for some people. My personal experience of success is not a reasonable blueprint for literally anyone except me. Our experiences are shared but not useful to proscribe behavioral interventions for anyone except u…
Alcoholics Anonymous as it exists today is not what it used to be. It started out with people who had lost everything or were about to, people that society had given up on, "low bottom" drunks and the like, people who were desperate to stay alive like Bill himself.
Today's AA I'm afraid after all the court ordered people and all the people who use it as a social club because their doctor told them that 4 glasses of wine a day was too much so they should stop. Well, it's too watered down for me and I don't go. I'm not surprised people think it doesn't work. If you want to test this, to a meeting and try to get people to try to talk about how the steps work in their lives and how they recovered and stop using their time as a gripe session and try to find sponsors who will stick to just taking you through the steps and not try to be your therapist. I've seen enough, but ymmv