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Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by xyzelement »

blindriver wrote: post #4

Every single girlfriend I had, I asked her to get off contraceptives because of the medical dangers and I didn't want to be responsible for any problems associated with it. Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant. One of my girlfriends actually got mad at me because I was *too* careful about getting her pregnant, and interpreted that as me not wanting to get married to her (which since…

You are getting weird hate here. You identified a health risk someone you cared about / loved was taking and strongly encourage them to avoid it (and offered other solutions)

This is exactly what a proper partner does. Obviously you didn't force anyone to do it, but being passionate about such a topic is totally valid.

Your story reminds me of mine though - encouraged female friends to avoid the pretty obvious health risk. And also have two kids now and never before :)

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by emodendroket »

fnordpiglet wrote: post #7

After I had the kids I wanted, I got a vasectomy. It’s a painless and quick and largely reversible procedure with no side effects and offers 100% contraception. If you care about your partner and are “done,” I highly recommend it.

That's all well and good but there are a lot of situations where women go for birth control where that isn't much of an option.

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by mentalpiracy »

blindriver wrote: post #4

Every single girlfriend I had, I asked her to get off contraceptives because of the medical dangers and I didn't want to be responsible for any problems associated with it. Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant. One of my girlfriends actually got mad at me because I was *too* careful about getting her pregnant, and interpreted that as me not wanting to get married to her (which since…

>>> This doesn't work for everyone but I'm fairly responsible

chivalrous, even.

/s

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by warent »

lazyasciiart wrote: post #6
blindriver wrote: post #4

Every single girlfriend I had, I asked her to get off contraceptives because of the medical dangers and I didn't want to be responsible for any problems associated with it. Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant. One of my girlfriends actually got mad at me because I was *too* careful about getting her pregnant, and interpreted that as me not wanting to get married to her (which since…

Wow. I'd probably break up with a guy who "asked me to get off contraceptives". If you want to be responsible about preventing pregnancy, that's fantastic. If you feel like that's any more than an input to her decision of whether to be on it, that's a pretty fundamental overreach.

Maybe I'm being overly generous, it seems like it may be possible for this kind of thing to be more of a request out of support/concern for a loved one's health, rather than one of control or knowing better than a woman. It has been my understanding that many men don't consider such things.

My lady has had horrendous experiences with hormonal contraceptives. Based on what we know of it, if she ever expressed wanting to try it again, I'd ask she reconsiders, or that we explore other options. She would appreciate that as being thoughtful (not as me claiming to know what's better for her, better than herself.)

Maybe it's all about context, I'm not sure

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by afavour »

blindriver wrote: post #4

Every single girlfriend I had, I asked her to get off contraceptives because of the medical dangers and I didn't want to be responsible for any problems associated with it. Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant. One of my girlfriends actually got mad at me because I was *too* careful about getting her pregnant, and interpreted that as me not wanting to get married to her (which since…

To be clear: you would never be in any way responsible for problems associated with your partner taking hormonal birth control because it is a choice they make themselves for their own body.

> Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant

You have to understand what a big statement that is. If she does get pregnant there’s only one person guaranteed to have to deal with the consequences of that, and that’s her. Being hesitant to transfer the responsibility to you is very rational, being mad at you over the topic is understandable.

I know your intention is good throughout here but there’s an implication that you know what’s better for their bodies than they do. A better approach (IMO) is to inform them of the risks (which you’re right they may not know) and let them make their own choice.

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by twawaaay »

In general any type of hormonal anything is probably dangerous. Endocrine system is incredibly complex and connected in many different, mostly unknown ways.

And contraceptives play with hormones that are central to what makes women women.

These hormones are not just limited to regulating when eggs are released from ovaries, they take part in a lot of other processes. It is absolutely not surprising then that there will be other effects of long term hormonal supplementation.

I think the best course of action would be to work on other, non-hormonal contraceptive alternatives.

Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by kerpotgh »

lazyasciiart wrote: post #6
blindriver wrote: post #4

Every single girlfriend I had, I asked her to get off contraceptives because of the medical dangers and I didn't want to be responsible for any problems associated with it. Instead I took responsibility for making sure she wouldn't get pregnant. One of my girlfriends actually got mad at me because I was *too* careful about getting her pregnant, and interpreted that as me not wanting to get married to her (which since…

Wow. I'd probably break up with a guy who "asked me to get off contraceptives". If you want to be responsible about preventing pregnancy, that's fantastic. If you feel like that's any more than an input to her decision of whether to be on it, that's a pretty fundamental overreach.

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Re: Any type of hormonal contraceptive may increase risk of breast cancer

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Post by practice9 »

warent wrote: post #14
lazyasciiart wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Wow. I'd probably break up with a guy who "asked me to get off contraceptives". If you want to be responsible about preventing pregnancy, that's fantastic. If you feel like that's any more than an input to her decision of whether to be on it, that's a pretty fundamental overreach.

Maybe I'm being overly generous, it seems like it may be possible for this kind of thing to be more of a request out of support/concern for a loved one's health, rather than one of control or knowing better than a woman. It has been my understanding that many men don't consider such things. My lady has had horrendous experiences with hormonal contraceptives. Based on what we know of it, if she ever expressed wanting…

> Maybe it's all about context, I'm not sure

+100

For everyone the circumstances and relationship dynamics are different.

And it's kind of disheartening to read a well-intentioned comment, see people assuming their own completely different context and then getting slightly aggressive about it.

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