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If I say I'll do something; I follow through, come hell or high water.
A lot of folks know this about me, and try to get me to commit to stuff. I'll only commit to the stuff that I plan to complete.
It's interesting how hostile people get, when I mention how important it is to complete stuff. I had a trainer once say "It's really important to know what 'Done' looks like."
Having a high say-do ratio has always been important to me I've never encountered this idea, but as soon I read it I suddenly see it everywhere. My roommate who tells me he'll clean the kitchen then doesn't; my cousin who says he'll come to dinner then cancels. My best friend who says she'll start going to the gym and never does. My world is awash in people who say the most wonderful things and then don't do any of t…
Having a high say-do ratio has always been important to me I've never encountered this idea, but as soon I read it I suddenly see it everywhere. My roommate who tells me he'll clean the kitchen then doesn't; my cousin who says he'll come to dinner then cancels. My best friend who says she'll start going to the gym and never does. My world is awash in people who say the most wonderful things and then don't do any of t…
I think this is mostly the culture of "should". In our highly individualized society that glorifies self ambition, the list of things we "should" do are endless. However, when we say "I should go to the gym", we're not saying "I value my personal health and wellbeing and am convinced the gym is a path to that", but rather, "Society/friends/family/work might value me a little more if I do this" or "society may value m…
Like Oliver Burkemann said, most of these producutivity articles are written by and for 20 year old kids with no family, no responsibility; and the rest of us are shamed if we dont meet these impossible standards.
Having a high say-do ratio has always been important to me I've never encountered this idea, but as soon I read it I suddenly see it everywhere. My roommate who tells me he'll clean the kitchen then doesn't; my cousin who says he'll come to dinner then cancels. My best friend who says she'll start going to the gym and never does. My world is awash in people who say the most wonderful things and then don't do any of t…
> it feels like a distinctly modern phenomenon Probably not a modern phenomenon. Except in so far as it's a lot easier to "hear" people say things much more easily now.
Having a high say-do ratio has always been important to me I've never encountered this idea, but as soon I read it I suddenly see it everywhere. My roommate who tells me he'll clean the kitchen then doesn't; my cousin who says he'll come to dinner then cancels. My best friend who says she'll start going to the gym and never does. My world is awash in people who say the most wonderful things and then don't do any of t…
A similar idea that resonated with me is CGP Grey's suggestion to replace resolutions with themes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVGuFdX5guE Rather than set a lofty goal you're more likely to give up on (leaving you having accomplished nothing), simply look for ways in which you can do/be better than you were before.
My favorite yojijukugo is from Chinese, despite the fact that I barely speak it. 自強不息, or “Pushing forward to better yourself without ceasing,” I think? Maybe there’s a better way to put it? Another poster mentioned 点滴穿石 which is my second favorite. It puts things in perspective quite well.
I always say this to my kids when they don’t feel like doing some habit: just half arse it. Another phrase I use is: if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing poorly. I run 12km every day, but some days I don’t get out until the afternoon, like today, and it was 30 degrees C and I could only run 8kms and when I got to the bottom of the hill at the 8km mark I couldn’t run up it and just walked the remaining 4km ho…
I also keep coming back to this phrase. I believe this is the source (G.K. Chesterton, What's Wrong with the World): https://www.gutenberg.org/files/1717/1717-h/1717-h.htm#link2...
Like, if the commitment is serving your past self rather than your future self, give it up. You don’t owe your past self anything.
Hank Green did a really good talk on this a few years ago: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lPtopvsxmZY
Interesting that science by design is the inversion of this— to only show concern with the parts of every encounter which must always recur.