I'm still a React guy. I've also worked with Angular and Vue and toyed with Svelte.
People tend to compare these frameworks on things that don't matter - often it's performance. We used to compare React performance to AngularJs performance too, which was meaningless.
VDom is nice. Reactivity in signals is nice. Limiting rerenders is nice. But I choose frameworks because of developer ergonomics.
The killer feature for React was - 1. JSX - typing and auto-complete for components, colocation. 2. No direct dom access. (Good bye $element)
Most frameworks outside react still use templates. Even when they support JSX like syntax (aka vue 2.0) the default are templates. Templates are a no go for me. I use them for blogs or static websites, but applications are easier to make and maintain with actual javascript.
Luckily none of the other frameworks, even Angular, have rampant direct dom access anymore.
Hooks aren't a problem in general. It's just the useEffect hook. Unfortunately that's a big problem. That hook should never have existed. And it was clear from the start it'll be a pain from the limitations around it. It requires a mental model detached from everything people are used to and from other things around it.
When using React I usually just use MobX and everything just works.