Sounds like survivorship bias to me. Seen plenty of people drop out of things and never make a return to some magical FAANG or whatever employment/founding/etc after. Those folks don't make the headlines though and you don't remember them because - well - why would you.
whew, I just spent the last hour of my life reading your post history. I'm 28, I make 170k/yr, and I drive a 2008 Nissan. I'm a 5'6" straight male, 150lbs, not unattractive, and I haven't had sex in five years. Frankly, I've never had a relationship longer than a couple months in my life. In almost every quantifiable aspect, you've got me beat - but I don't envy you at all. You're very intelligent and driven. There i…
Well, to some extent you’re right. There are things I want that I can’t have. I’d love for capitalism to die, mixed use development to prosper, and gender roles to become like dinosaurs but those are far reaching things that I don’t expect to change.
But for my daily life - I do focus a lot on what is achievable, just insanely hard. Like you said, I’m in the 99th percentile and I’m still focused on being even higher. To some, being where I am seems like success regardless of where you started (and it is to some extent) but I want to go further. It’s not like I couldn’t ever be satiated, it’s just that I wish to do more and be more because I know I’m capable of it.
People are different. Just because I’m miserable doesn’t mean I chose the wrong path. It’s just that some paths aren’t for others. In the same way that bdsm might not be for you - choosing an extremely punishing and grueling lifestyle to climb your way to the top might not be your cup of tea either.
To me, at this moment, success is worth more than happiness. Happiness is quite abstract anyway and goals can be quite concrete. I tend to feel happiest when I feel like I’m getting what I want - and that doesn’t have to mean that I have it already… it just means it’s clear I’m on the right path.