> - significantly higher cost (absent widespread R1 zoning, which drives the cost of apartments up),
Also significantly higher return on investment. Homeowners build equity, renters don't. Houses increase in value faster than owned condos/apartments/townhouses.
> - locations in the middle of desolate suburbia,
It's not desolate. We have everything -- parks, stores, restaurants, schools, nearby downtown areas...
> - dead neighbourhoods because almost no one lives there,
Not dead at all. Plenty of kids playing all the time, people walking their dogs, etc.
> - very few nearby stores and restaurants,
Not true at all. There are hundreds of stores and restaurants where I live. They just aren't jammed between people's houses.
> - no or limited public transit because it costs far too much to run in sprawling suburbia,
Plenty of transit in my suburb.
> - utter dependence on personal automobiles, and the complete lack of independence for children, young adults, and other non-driving members of society,
Not true at all. People have ways to get around. Kids ride bikes. There are buses and trains not all that far away.
> - the necessity of maintaining the grounds of your own personal park,
It's not usually a big deal to maintain your yards. Most people seem to manage. Some hire gardeners, but many also take care of it themselves.
> - poorly maintained or missing public infrastructure because everything is so spread out,
All the infrastructure in most suburbs is fine. It's not like we all live in the 1800s or something. The roads are even paved!
> - having to endure endless traffic because of your 1hr commute to work,
A 1-hour commute is an outlier. It just is. The US average, last I checked, is something like 30 or 35 minutes.