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We found dance foot pattern fossils or something?
We know a few near-neolithic tribes right now.
It's common for poorly adjusted people to develop a sense of superiority as a defence mechanism.
But what if they're correct D: Like how EU4 players feel toward Civ players
Building a system in which you have value and others are stupid can help you cope.
It's common for poorly adjusted people to develop a sense of superiority as a defence mechanism.
But what if they're correct D: Like how EU4 players feel toward Civ players
Damn
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But what if they're correct D: Like how EU4 players feel toward Civ players
> they're only a reflection of a subjective value system. Damn https://www.qwantz.com/index.php?comic=14
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Or perhaps people are different and they find themselves pressured and bullied by “normal” people.
It's ok to be different, but thinking your better is often unhealthy and a symptom of trauma.
Perhaps these people are responding to other peoples sense of superiority. These other people don’t get called out because they are “normal” and we assume that normalcy is automatically superior.
> There is nothing more notable in Socrates than that he found time, when he was an old man, to learn music and dancing, and thought it time well spent. (Michel de Montaigne, Essais ) Albert Camus dancing (Life Magazine): https://coreyrobin.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/albert-cam...
Great article! Also: > I’ve never heard of a family being divided because its members dance different styles Anyone who believes this needs to go watch Strictly Ballroom (1992) with all possible urgency. I was also somewhat sceptical about dancing until in my early 20s I made the discovery that nightclubs were not necessarily just places where people went to get shitfaced, but that there were places run by and for en…
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What about those who didn't want at first, then tried it after some nudging, and ended up enjoying it?
I was one of these. I grew up fairly religious in an environment where dancing was looked down upon (especially for men). As an adult, I had friends repeatedly nudge me toward it and it took a long time to get comfortable with it. Much of my resistance was not wanting to look silly in front of others, not wanting to be out of rhythm, etc. It’s a humbling experience at first and requires swallowing some pride. But man…
I don't look down on dancing, but like with everything really people are just different, there's no Tabula Rasa. No amount of trying will make me enjoy dance (believe me I've tried), just as my wife who is a dancer will never consider an afternoon spent reading a sci-fi novel to be the epitome of happiness. Unfortunately dance is something that pops up at parties and other occasions, and it's implied that you're weir…
You can't change anybody, you can only influence them to change. You can't learn anything from a book that you didn't already know. I don't know how to say it exactly, but I've seen enough people change, and how that happens, to know that you and your wife's tastes may change over time. You don't have to be open to the possibility of you don't want to be, but it does remind me of another phrase: I'm not a math person…
Everyone and everything influences who we're regardless of their intentions. What is strange is, although you may already be happy and fulfilled, people feel it's their duty to "influence" you to change because their worldview cannot accept you. In their mind they think "you cannot possibly not like this thing that I love." Well dears, it's possible and you should accept that not everyone is like you.
>You can't learn anything from a book that you didn't already know.
Let's start that this very much depends on the kind of book. Putting that aside, literature isn't meant to convey knowledge in first place. Rather literature is meant to convey emotions and imagination.
>but I've seen enough people change
People may change. But that doesn't make right other people to try and force this change.
>You don't have to be open to the possibility of you don't want to be
Sorry but I've hard time understanding this. Do you mean "at least try"? What if they tried and didn't liked it? Do they've to try indefinitely because some people cannot accept the fact that they may not like it?
>I'm not a math person.
Huh! See this is usually said when someone has hard time with math. Which is entirely distinct thing from enjoying math. Have known many people that were good in math but that didn't mean they'll solve math problems in their free time. Similarly people can be good at dance but that doesn't mean they enjoy dancing.
> I’ve never heard of a family being divided because its members dance different styles, but I am in one divided by political and religious opinions. Being a dancer (lindy hop) with a large number of dancers in my social circle, dancing is actually a frequent source of tension among many couples around me. Couples splitting up because one is heavily more invested in dancing than the other is a common occurence. And d…
I'm puzzled where this comes from, since they're entirely different scenes. On a social dance night, or say, a festival, one may find Blue/Balboa/Lindy Hop (and possibly Shag), but hardly Lindy Hop and West Coast Swing, since the music is different.
Edit: Actually, the message that the article sends is exactly what happens - dancers try other dances, then they share how they've integrated them into their dance, or how interesting is anyway to try something different - as opposed to intellectual condescension.
> Couples splitting up because one is heavily more invested in dancing than the other is a common occurence.
There surely are occurrences of this, but I wouldn't describe the phenomenon as common. It implies that a romantic relationship is based entirely on dancing, which I don't think is frequent; also, the vast majority of the dancers leave the scene within 3/4 years.
I've personally lived the "mismatch of interest", but it ended up like any other separate hobby in the context of a couple.