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Dancing is stupid

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Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by Cabronavirus »

throw_pm23 wrote: post #23
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

What about those who didn't want at first, then tried it after some nudging, and ended up enjoying it?

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Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by Trasmatta »

hcks wrote: post #44
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

Refusing to dance at an event where people are is literally an anti-social act. Please note that I am NOT making a moral judgement whether or not you should always act in a pro-social way.

This is exactly what I mean. What other activities to people start claiming "you are being anti social" because you don't participate? Why do people treat dance as if it's a sacred act that everyone must participate in?

Respect people's choices. Let people be adults who have the right to choose.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by Cabronavirus »

Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

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Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by progrus »

nordsieck wrote: post #10
AstixAndBelix wrote: post #3

Dancing is just a game we play, like everything else we do. Once you see it like that it all makes sense

> Dancing is just a game we play, like everything else we do. Once you see it like that it all makes sense IMO, this is just not true. There is something really special about synchronized action with other people. Be it marching, singing, chanting, etc. It engenders trust, builds community, and generally builds relationships in a way that I don't think anything else does. This isn't a strictly good thing either - my…

“Game” is not pejorative in this context.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by AstixAndBelix »

nordsieck wrote: post #10
AstixAndBelix wrote: post #3

Dancing is just a game we play, like everything else we do. Once you see it like that it all makes sense

> Dancing is just a game we play, like everything else we do. Once you see it like that it all makes sense IMO, this is just not true. There is something really special about synchronized action with other people. Be it marching, singing, chanting, etc. It engenders trust, builds community, and generally builds relationships in a way that I don't think anything else does. This isn't a strictly good thing either - my…

Your comment clearly shows your bias. Amateur orchestras are a mess just like amateur sports teams. Nobody has a common vision and each is mostly left to their own devices.

Now switch to professional ensembles and professional sports teams and the level of coordination and complicity is exactly the same.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by throwaway22032 »

Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

If you go to an event in which most people do X and you refuse to do X then you're marking yourself as an outsider, unsurprisingly people find this suspicious/odd.

You could apply it to anything. If I went along to a LAN party or an arcade and then said "I don't play video games" people would think I had a stick up my arse and they'd be right.

If you really don't enjoy it then it's normal to not go along to those sort of events, there's nothing weird about that.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by sublinear »

Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

I think the worst part about it is the same insecurity that causes someone to always say no to dancing also makes it difficult to say it with tact.

I've been there. It's even worse when you get the fake sympathy after you had to get fake mad at their insistence.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by drowsspa »

hcks wrote: post #44
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

Refusing to dance at an event where people are is literally an anti-social act. Please note that I am NOT making a moral judgement whether or not you should always act in a pro-social way.

The word "anti-social" comes embedded with a moral judgement. You can't just claim you're not making one.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by bsnnkv »

Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

I think this person went back in time a couple of years and stole the thoughts out of my head for this post.

Re: Dancing is stupid

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Post by sublinear »

hcks wrote: post #44
Trasmatta wrote: post #19

There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…

Refusing to dance at an event where people are is literally an anti-social act. Please note that I am NOT making a moral judgement whether or not you should always act in a pro-social way.

You can do many other social things at a gathering. Dancing is just one of them.
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