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Some thoughts: I like Douglas Adams phrase that says "I'd be happy than right any day". Also, about the hint "If programming is your dance, and you love doing it, then do it professionally" consider that turning something fun into a job may make it dull. In my life I became much "lighter" when I learned to don't care so much if people think I'm right. I basically stopped being https://m.xkcd.com/386/ . My advice is b…
There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…
They go to the dance floor and do some weird random movements listening to overly loud music of grossly low quality.
Whether people a century or two ago has interpreted this as dance or as some mental conditon is an open question.
I'm all for ball dance or irish dance but not for the club variety.
Apollonian/Dionysian [0]
>Dancing forces you to be here and now—connecting you with your and your partner’s body. Dancing is a means of irrational communication. Dancing is a conversation between two people where the means of communication are your bodies.
Personally, I wouldn't focus on partner dance. In my experience those tend to be over-analytical and strict.
It is more approachable to immerse yourself in dancing all by yourself and/or in group dance (more akin to ritualistic dances inducing trance-like states).
There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…
What about those who didn't want at first, then tried it after some nudging, and ended up enjoying it?
They will believe they can show you better and make you like it, and thus will try to obnoxiously persuade you to dance with them.
It's just rude.
And the attitude of yours is also part of the problem:
Believing that somehow grown up people are incapable of learning the very basic fact "dancing can be fun" on their own and need to be told about it and nudged towards it.
No, they don't, they know it can be enjoyable, and they have tried, and it isn't for them, and they don't need to be educated any further.
I'm just not sure the common modern people dance at all. They go to the dance floor and do some weird random movements listening to overly loud music of grossly low quality. Whether people a century or two ago has interpreted this as dance or as some mental conditon is an open question. I'm all for ball dance or irish dance but not for the club variety.
I am reminded of this suddenly https://youtu.be/6ofYNHRcspM
There's something about dancing that people get really weird about if you don't want to participate. As if it's their god given duty to convince you that, no, you really DO like dancing, and you'll have a great time if you just loosen up and have fun. I wish people would just respect "no thank you" and stop trying to push people to do something they clearly don't want. As is, I have to avoid events with dancing. And…
What about those who didn't want at first, then tried it after some nudging, and ended up enjoying it?
A little gentle nudging followed by respecting the other person's choice is the way to go. But some people can't seem to compute the fact that there are legitimate reasons some people don't enjoy dancing, and take it as an almost personal affront.
If I'm playing Smash Brothers at a party, I'll totally try to get people involved, even if they don't look interested. But some people don't enjoy video games, and some people just don't like fighting games, so I don't physically force the controller into their hands, claiming "you'll have fun if you just loosen up!"