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The Hedgehog's dilemma is relevant for loneliness. From Wikipedia: "The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is a metaphor about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather. They must remain apart, however, as they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp spines. Though they all…
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is there maybe some way to find the nearest population center from any given location? say the nearest town with 100.000 inhabitants? something like this: https://citiesnear.com/me
The nearest town with 100k inhabitants means that places such as Greenland are completely excluded, since its largest town by far only has a population of 18k
The Hedgehog's dilemma is relevant for loneliness. From Wikipedia: "The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is a metaphor about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather. They must remain apart, however, as they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp spines. Though they all…
I’m not going to mess with Schopenhauer, but I feel this is wrong in respect to hedgehogs and also humans.
The more intimate you are with someone, the more you're also aware of their pain and hardships. Intimate relationships involve conflicts and require compromises you would be able to avoid or not get into in a more distant relationship. They involve vulnerability and trust.
The vulnerability and trust and the deep emotional meaning that intimate relationships have can make those conflicts all the more painful. Sometimes the compromises required or the shared pains can amount to damage.
Of course that's not the only side of intimate relationships, as the metaphor also says. I'm not sure I'd agree with the interpretation that we (or most people) should be wary or moderate with closeness to other people. But I do get the idea that it's not without a significant cost that wouldn't be there when keeping a greater distance.
Where each of us falls on the spectrum between the joys and pains (or even damage) of close relationships probably depends both on personality and our experiences.
Someone had a very good point that the wording seems to only imply that the loneliness is caused by lacking the listed qualities when in fact, some are lonely because of their strong attributes (good looking, smart, wealthy). I made an update so that all future messages will "attribute" to these qualities, instead of these qualities 'holding them back'. Thank you, anonymous user!
Interesting idea but i got too annoyed by the unresponsive ui to spend more than my 15 seconds there. The map especially is blocking too much, please fix and ill be back
"We live in the most connected age, but we feel lonelier than ever. We experience: a sense of isolation feeling "out of tune" with people around us having no one to turn to" Do "we"? I don't. Thats kind of a condescending accusation to make on the landing page of a website!
I was very lonely for my college years because I lived in a religious uni that was far away from any city, partly because the mission school I went to (went to school outside of America) offered tuition scholarships to go there. Within the first year of leaving to an actual city, I lost my virginity, had my first successful relationship, and generally found my place in the world. People underestimate how much mundane…
I feel you! The prime motivation to create this webapp (and the future project that is in the oven) was from my extreme loneliness during grad school. I never thought that I would be someone to experience loneliness because I thought I was a generally happy person with quite a few close friends I can talk deeply with. I thought, why is it that in this today and age with ultimate connectivity, there is not a reasonabl…
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One thing that always bothered me is how much wasted potential there is in tools like Omegle or chatRoulette. On paper they sound amazing, and a few years ago back when they started and not everyone was aware, I remember having two or three amazing (and entirely SFW) interactions with some random people from around the world. It was genuinely exciting in a super legit way. And then, yeah. It turned into what it is to…
Using Call of Duty (a military game) with voice chat was oddly similar experience. You can match with two other teammates, then you chat as you help each other succeed in the game, naturally building rapport. Then the game round ends and… that's it, you'll never talk to those people again. It's very abrupt and makes the whole interaction feel weirdly transactional.
This reminds me of the work of the Japanese artist Watanabe Atsushi. He collaborated with people living shut in lives to all take photos of the moon together and collected them into an visual art work. Even though they're all alone everyone is looking at the same moon. https://www3.nhk.or.jp/news/special/hikikomori/pages/article...