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Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by reeckoh »

jeffbarr wrote: post #4

Bill Gates and Paul Allen were doing something similar decades ago. According to https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-35442969 (but well known before that): > Paul Allen, who would later become a co-founder of Microsoft, was a couple of years above Gates at school. Together they fixed the school scheduling software to ensure Gates was the only boy in classes of girls.

Sergey Brin too, with company massage rooms at early Google.

As others have pointed out, it's also how Facebook was started.

Sometimes I look back at my youth, and think about how I used to view technology: as a democratizing force which could tear down artificial barriers. Then I look around today and wonder what happened.

It makes sense, though, if you look closely at the founding fathers of big tech.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by IncRnd »

gedy wrote: post #15

People can tsk tsk this, but it's damn hard to find a mate if you are not in the top 20% of (straight) men, and basically requires you to be aggressive like this. You may be praised for being a "nice guy" by being passive, but it will not get you dates.

For anyone experiencing this drawback, consider not calling your prospective cuddlybear a "mate" or leering at them when auditing their classes.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by nhchris »

> This might be hard, as no unwanted advances are taking place. We simply have students excelling at the course, and drawing-in a crowd. I should've been more clear with my "leching" comment. Still, it seems harassing in nature.

It seems increasingly that society demands a world where dating only happens during designated and approved dating times and venues, and outside those strictly delimited places, men are to behave as eunuchs, and all prospects of romance are to be extinguished.

Then wonder why marriage and fertility rates are tanking.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by jojobas »

plaguepilled wrote: post #12

It is absolutely insane that the professor cannot eject an auditing student from their class. The relevant university is apparently a joke at the expense of fresher student safety.

She admitted they're not up to anything that's against the rules.

Why should she be able to eject them? Because "only attractive women [are] being offered tutoring sessions"?

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by drpgq »

ZephyrBlu wrote: post #25

Ingenious and hilarious. Trying to shut it down is probably going to create more interest, Streisand effect type thing. I would leave it to burn out on it's own. It sounds like a net positive on the whole. Hard to tell if there is really a problem here. "a number of female students" reached out to her with concerns, but "a few fellow profs either find it comical, or are happy that open labs are so full of volunteer t…

Yeah this professor seems to be taking this really personally, like some fictional crusty dean. Simpson!

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by waynesonfire »

RedShift1 wrote: post #18
Metacelsus wrote: post #6

For many people, college itself is a dating service.

I never dated when I was in school, if I could advise my past self I'd say try to get as many dates as you can because after school it dries up pretty fast... I'm 36 now and still single -_-.

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is today.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by GalenErso »

CyberDildonics wrote: post #34
GalenErso wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

As a woman, I can speak on experience that women will run away from any space men try to invade to seek us, whether it's dating apps, classes, bars, etc. The last thing I want is for a horde of thirsty men to chase me.

Then why are there so many women on dating apps, in bars and in classes?

Men far outnumber women on dating apps.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by thrownawaydad »

aborsy wrote: post #19

Maybe address the imbalance of men and women in some branches of studies. How are people supposed to meet relevant mates? I mean, they could use an app or social events, but you could raise the same complaints there too.

Hmm. So, try to get more men to enroll in mainly female courses? Might work, but I doubt it. And no university anywhere frets about disciplines where males are underrepresented. Males in general are underrepresented overall at university. Oh well.

Note that OP stipulated that there were "no unwanted advances". Is this even a real problem?

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by tiahura »

GalenErso wrote: post #20
gedy wrote: post #15

People can tsk tsk this, but it's damn hard to find a mate if you are not in the top 20% of (straight) men, and basically requires you to be aggressive like this. You may be praised for being a "nice guy" by being passive, but it will not get you dates.

As a woman, I can speak on experience that women will run away from any space men try to invade to seek us, whether it's dating apps, classes, bars, etc. The last thing I want is for a horde of thirsty men to chase me.

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Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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Post by OgAstorga »

CyberDildonics wrote: post #34
GalenErso wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

As a woman, I can speak on experience that women will run away from any space men try to invade to seek us, whether it's dating apps, classes, bars, etc. The last thing I want is for a horde of thirsty men to chase me.

Then why are there so many women on dating apps, in bars and in classes?

clubs are specifically designed for this
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