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Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#21
The author hints at this problem being more acute within a particular demographic: a “database of courses that are statistically likely to have a large proportion of young women from certain cultural backgrounds”.

Some societies put a lot more pressure on young people (usually men) to find a trophy partner. For example groups that consider themselves aristocratic and other forms of more explicit arranged marriages.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#22
If a male engineering student chooses, say, a drama elective in hopes of meeting more women, that's fine as long as he takes the class seriously and treats fellow students with respect. He might even learn something. But someone with a strong math background shouldn't be allowed in a 100-level math for liberal arts students class, regardless of motive.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#23
This seems like an extremely low yield way to get female attention. A male engineering student would have to take an entire class, study new material, and come up with schemes for seeming like a "chad" for the unlikely chance that the opposite gender will be impressed with him. They could spend that time building cool things. Are people really this desperate?

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#25
Ingenious and hilarious.

Trying to shut it down is probably going to create more interest, Streisand effect type thing. I would leave it to burn out on it's own. It sounds like a net positive on the whole.

Hard to tell if there is really a problem here. "a number of female students" reached out to her with concerns, but "a few fellow profs either find it comical, or are happy that open labs are so full of volunteer tutors" and the boys are leading labs and offering tutoring.

Of course there are hidden motives, but it sounds like for the most part everyone is getting something useful out of this.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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post #23

This seems like an extremely low yield way to get female attention. A male engineering student would have to take an entire class, study new material, and come up with schemes for seeming like a "chad" for the unlikely chance that the opposite gender will be impressed with him. They could spend that time building cool things. Are people really this desperate?

It mentions being able to "audit" a class, that is, sign up and take arbitrary amounts without credit.

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#27
Am I understanding correctly that some students took the publicly published racial/gender/diversity data for the college and basically made an app advertising "here are all of the women taking college seriously and pursuing STEM courses, so you can maybe find a sugar mama?"

Why would a female smart enough to pass college level STEM classes fall for that "bro" logic? How is this successful at all?

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#28
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Don't let senior level students audit junior level classes? Why are they even there besides the reasons outlined in the problem? This is a problem with the University because they don't want to acknowledge a problem. Do they really think that's going to last? If it was my daughter who left the class because she was harassed I'd be very angry.

Why do people see this as even remotely unethical? It seems to me that it's great that plenty of younger people are getting essentially free tutoring sessions and fun friendships/relationships out of it. Unless there's sexual assault/battery being alleged here, this is both ethical and good for all the students involved!

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Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

#29
As much as I disagree with "diversity" pushes, I don't see the publication of this data (which the author mentions at least twice) as being really important here. It should be obvious to anyone who thinks about it which classes would fit the description. It seems like the app is somehow a catalyst for coordinated activity at this school (and maybe driven by the data) but realistically you could probably find a speculative "what classes to meet girls in" thread on reddit that would give the same info

Re: Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

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post #23

This seems like an extremely low yield way to get female attention. A male engineering student would have to take an entire class, study new material, and come up with schemes for seeming like a "chad" for the unlikely chance that the opposite gender will be impressed with him. They could spend that time building cool things. Are people really this desperate?

People pursue what they are interested in.
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