I think the problem is that there aren't enough attractive 18-25 year old women to date all the average 18-80 year old men.
Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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Even if one believes in forced labor in order to provide goods and services to those in need, are you really drawing some sort of parallel where people should be compelled to perform sexual favors for others? I mean one could be a full on communist and not think that state provided prostitution (where people would be assigned those jobs by the state) is ethical. Didn't think I'd see apologism for something akin to No…
I didn't say anything like that. What I would like to do is disallow use of the concept of "entitlement" particularly "you are not entitled to..." in conversation. There are many other arguments people could make, they don't need that one. There is a theme in psychology going back to the Freudian days that female desire has a self-destructive aspect (e.g. "masochism"), we all know the woman who dates one bad boyfrien…
> What I would like to do is disallow use of the concept of "entitlement" particularly "you are not entitled to..." in conversation.
Why do you think the phrase shouldn't be allowed in this particular conversation?
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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> I don't take my family to church but I do really miss the communal aspects of the whole enterprise, and wish there was a good way to get a similar vibe without the aspects of religion I don't like. Maybe there's a Unitarian Universalist congregation near you? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unitarian_Universalism
You know, I've always kind of dismissed UU. Not sure why. Having taken a look at the website for our local congregation it actually sounds way better than I've given it credit for. Might have to check it out.
+1 for UU. I'm not formally a member, but as far as churches go it's one of the few that I know of that atheist me might be able to tolerate. If you would prefer Xian, Jesus-y content with your (still quite-liberal) church, another to consider would be the UUC: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Church_of_Christ .
Also Unity: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unity_Church . 'Unity describes itself as "for people who might call themselves spiritual but not religious."' If you ever are in the KC area, Unity Village is a nice place to visit, the church has a beautiful campus there.
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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For some reason at the bar people don’t ever talk to me until I’ve been drinking for so long I sound like an idiot.
intelligence can be intimidating; overbearing intelligence is almost a turn-off maybe people are just waiting until you're down on their level
Most women aren't intimidated by intelligence. They're turned off by condescending assholes who constantly recite facts and contradict others instead of carrying on a normal conversation.
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
#755Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
#756There is something messed up in modern dating. IME a girl who is a 5/10 can get a date/laid easily, with barely any effort, and usually with a more attractive male. A guy who is 5/10 has to do insane antics just to get a shot, including learn to be a standup comedian, be in great shape, have a good job, read tons of dating books, etc. I’m not sure it’s the fault of OLD, but something is messed up. It’s frankly depres…
'Modern' women just aren't that interested in hookups with 5/10 guys, deal with it. Maybe blame men for being so indiscriminate?
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
#757Earlier quoted context omitted.
For sure. Especially when it's regurgitating a blob of standard-issue partisan nonsense that is only tenuously related to what's actually being discussed.
It's a response to this: > trans women are a subversion of traditional gender roles And this: > Exactly. The traditional gender roles come out of the tradition of patriarchal exploitation of women, If you think it's nonsense, explain why.
> If you think it's nonsense, explain why.
Nope. I don't do labor on demand for anybody but my clients. I'm sure you can figure it out if you try, though.
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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The problem with hobby relationships is not only that it is just awkward in the first place as people said above. The other significant problem is that hobbies are long term activity. Say you sign up for a club/class/sports team and you genuinely interested in that activity. You meet 10-15 new people, and lets say there are no single people of opposite gender. Now what? Cancel your kayaking club after few weeks and s…
In the case you're describing, the hypothetical person is going into the hobby for the wrong reason. The primary objective should be the hobby, if you happen to find someone you get on well with all the better.
I understand your point. But the original premise is to find a relationship via hobby. Then some said it's wrong. You should have a hobby because of the hobby itself. People looking for relationships in hobbies would be a turnoff.
So the original question is how people find relationships IRL (outside dating apps). Some answer just get a hobby. But then the same problem remains as you can see.
The same thing can be applied for working in an office. People do get relationships in an office but you would be a turnoff if you said you're looking for a relationship when applying for a job.
So for people looking for relationships primarily, what should they do outside dating apps? Or should they just repress their desire and live their life? If they meet one in hobbies or offices, great! If not, c'est la vie.
Re: Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
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Definitely 6' and up - and I'm shorter than that. It's pretty obvious, but I don't lose sleep about it. I also meant BMI relative to height, not height in general. Statistics don't lie in terms of what each population generally finds attractive.
> Definitely 6' and up For women? Maybe in the Netherlands.
For men.