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What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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Everything is a matter of perspective. I wonder if this person thinks his life is ruined: https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/20/philip-esformes-whose-prison... Or this person: `Pol Pot stated that his "conscience is clear" but acknowledged that mistakes were made'

> `Pol Pot stated that his "conscience is clear" but acknowledged that mistakes were made'

I was wondering about the source. This seems to be from a 1997 interview with Robin McDowell: https://apnews.com/article/2a1128d4b0c52563496f1e296df0a229 .

Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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tl;dr subscribe to my blog and maybe sign up for a course, basically a support group for people who like memes and need a pep talk. Shallow but not insincere.

Graham's writings and book helped me make it through Covid isolation and a relationship breakdown. He and his partner have done very good work for many people in the area of mental health in Australia: https://www.bigfeels.club/about-honor-eastly-and-graham-pant...

Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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post #12
post #9

Everything is a matter of perspective. I wonder if this person thinks his life is ruined: https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/20/philip-esformes-whose-prison... Or this person: `Pol Pot stated that his "conscience is clear" but acknowledged that mistakes were made'

> `Pol Pot stated that his "conscience is clear" but acknowledged that mistakes were made' I was wondering about the source. This seems to be from a 1997 interview with Robin McDowell: https://apnews.com/article/2a1128d4b0c52563496f1e296df0a229 .

I think Pol Pot was confusing having a clear conscience with having no conscience.

Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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post #13

tl;dr subscribe to my blog and maybe sign up for a course, basically a support group for people who like memes and need a pep talk. Shallow but not insincere.

Graham's writings and book helped me make it through Covid isolation and a relationship breakdown. He and his partner have done very good work for many people in the area of mental health in Australia: https://www.bigfeels.club/about-honor-eastly-and-graham-pant...

First article: "For no reason". Second article: "Mighta been the drugs."

Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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When I was 23, I misdosed myself and took 110mg of 4-AcO-DMT. The experience was EXTREMELY traumatic and I believed I was dying. At one point I was so overstimulated I just lay on my kitchen floor convulsing uncontrollably.

The next few days I didn't know what to do. My body would just shake, I couldn't sleep and I stayed up until I passed out for an hour, and then my shaking would wake up myself up again. I was overwhelmed with dread and thought I had completely fucked my brain forever and all my potential was gone.

But I went to therapy, got better, and my life is completely normal now. I have HPPD and see visual snow, but that's about it.

This blog doesn't want to give platitudes like "it gets better" and I can see how they're not really helpful when you're in crisis mode. The one piece of advice that has helped me is the thinking that "I'm not the first one to ever go through this, and I won't be the last." No matter if you're fucked in the head, going bankrupt, getting divorced - whatever - you aren't alone and you can either find a solution or find acceptance.

Re: What to do when you’ve ruined your life

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tl;dr subscribe to my blog and maybe sign up for a course, basically a support group for people who like memes and need a pep talk. Shallow but not insincere.

Usually these kinds of things are just about selling a service. Most pitches on this is are like that just rehashed versions of the same sales pitches
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