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Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

I think it's the 'old' thing mainly.

Most people in our age range have families and lots of ties and commitments. We recently booked a weekend away with 7 friends and for most of them it was the only weekend in March they still had free. Birthdays, kids trips, judo contests, blah blah..

For me as an expat needing to travel for it, I complained that it was too far away in the future to know if it would work to fly over (eg important work commitments like trainings in the adjacent weeks)

I can't really blame them but as a childless single it's boring yeah. Good thing I have some nice social communities with similar people.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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sahila wrote: post #366
ryandrake wrote: post #348

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I think it's the whole etiquette of "Don't discuss religion or politics in polite company." If you really passionately believe in some political figure or religious thing, that's great. Other people don't, and I'm hosting a party for everyone to have fun, not just for believers. So, for the sake of getting along, leave it behind. Surely even passionate people can avoid talking about these topics for the mere 2 or so…

I agree with you in spirit but I’ve found as I’ve gotten older, I actually have more fun doing things with people whose life views I agree with. It’s hard to bury feelings if someone else is against immigrants (my parents are one), are against techies (that’s me!), anti-abortion, and many other current things I care about. I’m not the type to raise a stink but I usually won’t have as much fun there either. I guess it…

Why are you against techies? What's so wrong with us? :'(

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

gruez wrote: post #394
rank0 wrote: post #384

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Most recycling winds up in a landfill. It’s expensive and costs energy. Sometimes we just pay china to put waste into a landfill and call it recycling. There’s also the bottle caps, the packaging, and carbon cost of shipping a MUCH heavier product. There’s gotta be carbon output for growing barley and producing the actual beer too! All so my environmentalist buddy can get drunk. He shouldn’t feel guilty. The point is…

> Most recycling winds up in a landfill. It’s expensive and costs energy. Sometimes we just pay china to put waste into a landfill and call it recycling. Source for this being applicable to glass? The news sources I've seen say that it's mostly an issue with plastics.

Also, glass isn't terribly polluting. It's inert and it will eventually degrade into sand. It'll take a long time but it's not like microplastics that stay in the body.

And we've been recycling glass before recycling was a big thing of course.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

wikfwikf wrote: post #62
paweladamczuk wrote: post #45

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What is your standard for a "credible" reason? What should the parent comment's claim be based on? The last paragraph of your comment is hard for me to understand.

On the last par: suppose that it is true that a) 10 years ago people were less self-centered, impatient or poor than they are now and b) 10 years ago there were more parties. Does this form the basis of a well-evidenced claim that there are fewer parties because of increased poverty, narcissism or impatience? Of course not, because there are lots of other time periods we can easily look at. For example, in the 1950s…

Hmm in the 50s people were poorer yes but everyone could buy a house with a garden and actually on one wage only because the wife wouldn't work.

I totally agree hosting parties at home is much more problematic as people live closer together and get annoyed. I can see it around me a lot. I live in a major partying neighborhood (50m from the most infamous square in town for noise) and I don't care about the noise because it makes me feel good hearing people having fun. But my neighbors hate it. And most of them have moved here in the last decade knowing full well what they were getting into.

When you have a free standing house it's really a different story.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

thex10 wrote: post #171
jascination wrote: post #32

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This was a really thoughtful response, thanks for sharing it. As a 35 year old who's just had his first kids this makes me sad to read, it really feels like I'm past the age of good parties now. Pre-covid we were having raucous times every weekend and now there's too much responsibility to imagine that again. And I'm probably getting towards the age where it'd be a bit sad to still do that anyway. FWIW one place I've…

> FWIW one place I've lived that seems to care little about age in the party scene is Madrid. Perhaps this applies to much of Spain - my aunt in her 70s still hits the town with her girlfriends on many a night on Spain's Costa del Sol.

I see this also in Spain. A recent party I was at had 15 people in the age range from 21 to 70+. Really great to see this.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

activitypea wrote: post #31

I graduated right around the time Covid hit, and I feel like that wrecked my social life irreparably. I have 4-5 close friends I can hang out with every other week or so (nobody wants to hang out 1 to 1 every day), but all my friend groups dissipated. Some moved away, some moved on, some just stopped moving at all. I feel miserable and every couple of nights I have dreams of a Third Place where I can just go and make…

These third places do exist. I've restarted my social life successfully too, mostly with risky different people. In fact I just moved here before the pandemic so I didn't really have friends before it all started.

I tend to move a lot (this is my 4th country) so building new friendships is a fact of life for me. And I'm a very timid and introverted person. If I can do it, so can you!!

It's hard to get out of the post-COVID depression though, it takes a lot of effort. But I'm trying to make up for lost time now like I always said I would during the pandemic.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

gwbas1c wrote: post #92

Back in my 20s, when everyone was single, there were plenty of parties. It was just a matter of putting in the effort to find the right places to meet people. In my 30s, as a newly wed, there were still parties. A lot of people showed up with kids. Late night parties often had a baby or two who still weren't on a normal schedule. In my 40s, there's plenty of parties... They just are for other kids. I personally find…

I don't really like the parties with kids around myself. It's like a constant censorship. People don't say rude things around their kids, don't get too drunk, don't stay up late, constantly have to keep an eye on them.

To me it's no party when you're not crawling home at 6am after watching your friend make out with someone and having had the most hilarious laughs that you won't really remember because of the alcohol. And watching the sun come up with a friend talking about things you've never told anyone.

I'm 47 and I still feel this way. Maybe I never grew up. Well that might be so but I really don't want to :P. Luckily I've found others like me.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by wkat4242 »

severino wrote: post #245

> COVID happened and we still haven't restarted partying the way we used to Only that it's still ongoing. Of course, one thing is that most of us no longer give a s* about it and we don't care getting infected a dozen times in a year with a disease that can sometimes be deadly.

My opinion: Life always carries a risk. Since the body bags are no longer lining the streets and the hospitals are no longer overwhelmed we can go back to normal.

There's lots of nasty illnesses, one of which will most likely kill you in the end. What matters is the fun you had getting there.

Re: Ask HN: Where are all the parties?

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Post by iancmceachern »

bregma wrote: post #230
fnordpiglet wrote: post #175

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We introverts will make great residents of Mars. People always talk about how impossible it’ll be for humans to live there in relative isolation. Those people are obviously normals, and they always assume the others like us don’t count. I’d do just fine with myself or a small number of close partners for the rest of my life. Further, a lot of folks on the spectrum wouldn’t do _just_ fine, they would do better. . A pl…

Non-introverts are not "normals". They're just louder and pushier and invade your personal space more than others.

I really don't like it when they invade my personal space
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