At 50 or thereabouts, people's priorities in life changes and they change away from partying. The reasons you have listed are all valid points, but there is nit much you can do, other than befriending a younger generation, who tend to party a lot more than people in your (and mine) age group. But then, you are looking into being called the "geezer" in the group.
Accept your new status quo. Be happy with the few parties you attend or host. That is my best advice. Yesteryears are not making a comeback.
Ask HN: Where are all the parties?
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#112I'm 42 and last year moved back to my home country. We wanted to throw a housewarming party but getting enough people in one place on a specific day at a specific time seemed like an impossible challenge. Everybody had busy schedules for their precious August weekends anyway. We ended up doing a full-weekend party where people could drop by whenever they can. The first guests came on Friday around 6 pm and the last o…
As an introvert, that sounds like a total nightmare. One visit with friends, or so-called "party", leaves me drained for days.
If I had a whole weekend of drop-ins I would isolate myself a week after.
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#113I held a 30 person NYE party in the house I just purchased, that's 9 years in a row I've been holding this party. We dance, sing karaoke, drink champagne, and catch each other up on our otherwise busy and turbulent lives. Mostly friends from high school, some from university, and others still we've met afterwards. It's a wonderful atmosphere, partially because nearly everyone there has known each other for years now.…
Based on what you say about your parents, I have a feeling a lot of your success here is because you've grown up being shown the way. Congratulations. It's a helluva skill. Many, many people grew up without such examples.
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#114Parties are the result of social interaction, not the cause of it.
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#115Try moving to South America we have someone having adhoc party at least twice a month just among family and friends
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#116I’ve done enough partying to be honest.
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#117I go to a lot of concerts so I get a feel of being at a party, but I don't see my best friends very often. Most of them are not in my area anymore and it takes hours to days to go visit. Haven't been to a house party that isn't just dinner with family in quite a while.
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#118On Good Parties: https://www.plough.com/en/topics/life/on-good-parties
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#119I'm 42 and last year moved back to my home country. We wanted to throw a housewarming party but getting enough people in one place on a specific day at a specific time seemed like an impossible challenge. Everybody had busy schedules for their precious August weekends anyway. We ended up doing a full-weekend party where people could drop by whenever they can. The first guests came on Friday around 6 pm and the last o…
I love this idea. I often find getting a big group together for a BBQ or something is great for mixing social groups, cross-pollinating friends, and seeing people I don't often see - the downside is I don't tend to get much 1 on 1 time to really talk with friends, and often people can't make a specific time (especially as we get older). I also have a fair amount of friends who are introverted or have social anxiety and don't feel comfortable in larger groups, and this feels like it would benefit that too.
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#120I'm 43 and partying a lot on a beach in Thailand. I know many other software engineers and testers here who are doing the same, although the climbing around here (Krabi) does compete with our time. One friend works on corporate software while DJing psytrance on the beach.