The problem with dating is that we enforce a 1:1 relationship while nature encourages 1:N. Am I the only one seeing this? or we shouldn't talk about it to not risk getting canceled?
Salesforce, but for Dating
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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#152Can someone chime in why this hasn't worked in the past? It seems a personal/portable CRM could be highly useful. The second aspect is the vertical aspect (professional or "personal") One thing I keep hearing from people that have sold companies, exited etc. is that they are having a hard time operating within their networks without the CRM.
> Can someone chime in why this hasn't worked in the past?
Because spreadsheets and notes are free and good enough.
I used to be a full time shitty cheap car flipper. I used to be single. They're about the same level of communication work. The ROI of a proper CRM isn't there because in both cases your customer is just not that serious about the interaction when they're in the part of the funnel a CRM helps you with and even then it doesn't really help you with the bulk of the customers, it helps you with the long tail. When you're a one man shop squeezing out an extra 1% or whatever a CRM gets you isn't worth the time vs focusing on other areas. (These days I work in a client facing role with a proper ticketing system and integrated CRM so I do have something to compare to.)
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#153Can someone chime in why this hasn't worked in the past? It seems a personal/portable CRM could be highly useful. The second aspect is the vertical aspect (professional or "personal") One thing I keep hearing from people that have sold companies, exited etc. is that they are having a hard time operating within their networks without the CRM.
I've been working on FriendApp the past year. I think it hasn't worked in the past because the average person doesn't realize that they could really benefit from this solution. It hasn't necessarily felt like a burning problem. I think it has to add some value beyond just classifying and adding additional metadata to contacts.
My goal is to develop features that also facilitate sharing of activities, upcoming events that I'm attending that I want to share with people I know. Things I want to do, and making that visible to select groups of people.
Hope you'll check out where we're heading https://www.friendapp.com/
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#154Concept and parallel aside, you might not want the word ‘force’ in the name of your dating app. Just a thought.
Totally agree. Call it "Funnel". Which is gross and puerile on one level but not, like, violent.
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#155I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.
I've seen a couple tools pop up around this idea. Haven't explored them much, but:
- MonicaHQ (open-source)
- Dex (free version seems good enough for most people, i'm trying this one out rn) getdex.com/
- Custom system in Airtable - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=30329475
- Infrequent app - blog post talks more about it, linked in comments - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33308084
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#156Still not entirely certain this isn't just a really impressive parody, but for my sanity I am hoping it is. I think this says a lot about the "attention economy" way all the various dating and social apps take up your time to use them, and how we've digitized the process so much that people unironically see the appeal of a CRM system for managing contacts. Classic case of "new tech to solve the problems of all the ot…
This has got to be a parody, right? I really hope it is!
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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#157The copy in the example entry is telling: "I met her on Polk street."
If you don't know SF well, Polk street is one of two frat boy rows.
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#158Wow, managing one's dating life with a crm app has got to be the most distopian thing I've seen in a while. I probably need to point out that I'm not dissing the app. If it succeeds, the creators are obviously filling a need in the market, but confirmation of such a need would indicate dating as I define it is horribly broken
> dating as I define it is horribly broken Socializing as a whole is broken, triggered by the disappearance of third places, the dissolution of communities at the altar of the nuclear dual-income family, live-at-work jobs and "hustle culture" (Veblen entrepreneurship), and the unlimited streaming doom-scroll. With nowhere to go but work and home, good luck finding anyone to date or befriend via a nonexistent organic…
Very true!
While what you are saying is very true, dating so many people at once, plus having dated so many in the past that you need an app to keep track of them all is a whole other level of broken
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#159I was thinking about something similar, but less cringy. More like: hey you haven't messaged your friend in 6 months, maybe you should ask them how they are doing. A priority queue but to help keep friendships alive.
A person on reddit actually made this app and it worked pretty well. I can't remember the name of it for the life of me.
Re: Salesforce, but for Dating
#160A lot of dunking going on in here, and fairly so, if nothing else because there is no good business model for an app like this unless they build it into dating apps (who's going to manually enter data from Tinder into this thing?).
But the dunking seems to overlook the genuine problems with modern dating that didn't exist in the past. I find that it's very easy to mindlessly swipe a thousand people on an app and suddenly end up with more matches than I have the energy and attention span to process. If there was an easy way to turn this "inbox" (which is really just one step above my Gmail spam folder) into an actionable database, that could have real value in a world where dating happens stochastically through apps.
Separately, it isn't weird at all to keep some sort of track of your dating life. Past generations had the "little black book," basically a romantic rolodex. I've never used one but who's to say I couldn't benefit from a digital version that lives in my phone?
Most of all, a commenter here that is since deleted said something I think is apt: "I think the number one problem with online dating is not managing all the people. It's forcing yourself to keep the number of active pursuits low enough to manage. If you don't kind of commit to seeing if someone is going to pan out, then they won't." This is of course the actual solution to the problem I experience with modern dating. The only downside is that, unlike downloading an app, it requires that I change how I think and behave.