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Salesforce, but for Dating

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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

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Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Can someone chime in why this hasn't worked in the past? It seems a personal/portable CRM could be highly useful. The second aspect is the vertical aspect (professional or "personal") One thing I keep hearing from people that have sold companies, exited etc. is that they are having a hard time operating within their networks without the CRM.

Yes. Having been in this space for a bit, there are a few reasons why it hasn't worked (yet): 1. The problem of deduplicating contacts is tough (but solvable). If you don't solve it well, then the utility of personal CRM goes wayyyyy down and you're getting notifications about the same people with different email / WhatsApp / Instagram addresses and that gets annoying. 2. People haven't shown a big willingness to pay…

One problem I've had adopting such a system is that you want the system to help manage some load of work, e.g. maintaining your personal relationships. But using the product is itself work: you need to set it up, remember to use it, keep it up to date, etc. So, just as you've procrastinated keeping up with old friends, you procrastinate using the tool. And, of course, the tool doesn't reduce the workload of keeping up with friends. In fact, done successfully, your work has increased as you need to talk to your friends more often. So you're basically adding work (using the tool) to do work you didn't have the energy for in the first place (talking to your friends).

Everyone loves the idea of talking to their friends, conceptually. But, given ample time and opportunity, many choose not to keep up with friends. It's almost as if people only "want to want" to keep up with friends, rather than actually want it.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

I did this a loooong time ago before there was really internet dating. Had a decision analysis tool I wrote in excel 97. Married a match in 2002. She was a crazy narcissist and made my life misery for 18 years until I divorced her.

Beware the tools you create, for the input corpus isn't necessarily valid over time. People change.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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post #21

Might be a good opportunity here to integrate events, restaurant bookings, and other paid "experiences" for some upside. Does this integrate directly with the dating services/apps themselves? Seems like a lot of work to plumb in and keep up-to-date the status and latest information on each profile. Also, if this is a legit service you should be extremely careful how you store all this data. Exposing a bunch of dating…

Would also be a good to manage a date funnel. Then for dates in the funnel who told you things like "too busy", "not ready for dating" etc. you could schedule automated messages for things like reminding them to circle back when they're ready, checking if they're available to get on a call to show them new features you've added (as a person), etc.

Some email templates could help too.

> Hi (Name), are you getting the best experiences on your dates? We've been chatting for a while, and I wanted to share some news with you before I update everyone else. I've found some new exciting dating spots and you're going to love them! (Insert sales pitch) I'd love the chance to chat about my new dating spots. Shall we arrange a meeting to talk you through possible restaurants, bowling alleys or what movies we can watch together? Let's book a call today and get things started.

Source: https://www.flowrite.com/blog/sales-pitch-email , slightly modified.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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post #59

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Something like monica may interest you to scratch the personal CRM itch. https://github.com/monicahq/monica

I loved the idea of this until I realized the amount of PII I was collecting of friends and family in one place that could be hacked.

Yeah, I entered exactly one contact before I realized this.

There’s also the problem of entering unflattering details, and subsequently leaking them out.

The search continues.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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post #80

A good left-brained friend of mine was dating heavily in the late 2000s as he was in "wife finding mode". He had a spreadsheet -- called girls.xls -- where he kept track of important details about each woman he went on a date with. We were sitting around musing about how hard it must be to keep track of the key details given all the dates he was going on, and he let drop that he had a spreadsheet. He never showed it…

I was probably 24 years old before I realized dating multiple people was even a thing. I figured you talked to and dated a person until you either decided you weren't having a good time or you married them.

Note that it's not universally true around the world. In the US, yes. If you do this in the UK, it will result in an evening where you end up ordering a taxi and slipping out the back door while two women are pulling each other's hair extensions out outside a pub and trying to beat the opponent with a shoe.

Yes this actually happened to me.

Re: Salesforce, but for Dating

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

There have been several iterations of this sort of idea — a personal CRM — and the main issue I have is they should automatically scan my emails, texts and chats to figure out my friends and suggest that I reach out. Also, want it to be 100% local and privacy first.

> should automatically scan my emails, texts and chats Great, easy to integrate one service with the APIs of a bunch of others! > Also, want it to be 100% local and privacy first. ...but in combination? Never going to happen. Ask yourself: who's signing up for the API keys to enable the client-side service to talk to all these services? Is it the end-user, or is it this software's developer? If it's the software's de…

I recall Google has an API for at least part of the Gmail data (tasks) and that API is used on mobile devices.

Look into it, you might be surprised.

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