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I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by fdye »

monero-xmr wrote: post #2

I loan money to people and never expect to be repaid. If someone asks for $2k I give them $5k. $400 give them $1k. Sometimes I get paid back. Usually not. It’s because people are aware I have money so various people ask. The goal isn’t to get paid back. Often these acquaintances cut off all contact. The goal is to never be asked for money again and slowly bled out by frequent sob stories. If they know they are alread…

Same. Several years ago I had an ex-GF of sorts reach out to me in SF. She was passing through and wanted to say hi, etc. I had a couple hours before my shift at a bar I worked at so I swung by where she was, bought her a drink, etc. Immediately could tell she was in a bad place, looked like her occasional drug use had become a permanent, more hard kind. About halfway through the drink was a clumsy come on and a push for some cash, she was out of gas, couldn't get home, whatever. I ended up giving her like $40, a big hug, said goodbye. The whole time she is swearing up and down she will be back next week, will pay me back, etc. I got to work and told a coworker what had happened. She thought I was crazy and was laughing cause I had been conned by an ex. I then explained if I never saw my $40 again it was money well spent. One less person in my life bringing with it their chaos, and our history had made it hard to totally write off. Sure enough, never heard from her again...

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by 0cf8612b2e1e »

monero-xmr wrote: post #2

I loan money to people and never expect to be repaid. If someone asks for $2k I give them $5k. $400 give them $1k. Sometimes I get paid back. Usually not. It’s because people are aware I have money so various people ask. The goal isn’t to get paid back. Often these acquaintances cut off all contact. The goal is to never be asked for money again and slowly bled out by frequent sob stories. If they know they are alread…

The Bronx Tale strategy: https://youtu.be/78-4RobJQ0Y

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by savanaly »

pyb wrote: post #20
bena wrote: post #11

I'm surprised American McGee hasn't paid him back prior to this. I always assumed that McGee was more successful than he apparently was. Probably due to him putting his name in front of the game's title.

Sounds like McGee might not have got his fair share of Id's success. Maybe Carmack felt bad about that.

Why would McGee be the one paying Carmack back after all these years if that were the case? Can you imagine Walter White paying back Elliot for some long forgotten debt out of his drug money?

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by SketchySeaBeast »

bena wrote: post #11

I'm surprised American McGee hasn't paid him back prior to this. I always assumed that McGee was more successful than he apparently was. Probably due to him putting his name in front of the game's title.

Yeah, I quite enjoyed his first Alice game and that was ages ago.

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Post by okasaki »

zahrc wrote: post #8
monero-xmr wrote: post #2

I loan money to people and never expect to be repaid. If someone asks for $2k I give them $5k. $400 give them $1k. Sometimes I get paid back. Usually not. It’s because people are aware I have money so various people ask. The goal isn’t to get paid back. Often these acquaintances cut off all contact. The goal is to never be asked for money again and slowly bled out by frequent sob stories. If they know they are alread…

That is so surreal to me. I had to loan money from friends for real emergencies and always made sure they get paid - often more than they gave. How can one not be guilt-ridden until their deathbed?

If you're struggling, and get $1000 from someone who made $100M on crypto, would you be in a hurry to pay them back, or even care at all?

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Post by mym1990 »

labrador wrote: post #14

I've always heard the best way to get rid of someone from your life is to loan them money. People who owe you money make themselves scarce.

Seems accurate, had a friend/roommate who I had to spot a couple months rent, after he moved out I never did see him again hah.

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by mikrl »

postalrat wrote: post #19
mikrl wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Would telling them to go fuck themselves not be cheaper and easier? Edit: I don’t have fuck you money, so I am actually ignorant of the dynamic you’re describing. I’d rather be known as an asshole with backbone than a rich sap though. One of those looks more like a mark than the other.

Do you often consider friends and family as rich saps or marks?

No, for those people who would “ride for me” and vice versa I have loyalty and don’t mind helping them with money, but I’d expect to stay involved in their lives.

If they scuttle off, then they weren’t real at all, and I got played. I guess this supports OPs point, so I kinda get it.

However this group of people is not very large, most people I know aren’t getting money willy-nilly.

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by richthegeek »

adql wrote: post #7

Well it took me borrowing one video game to learn that lesson. "No, you must've borrowed it to someone else" when I asked. First game I bought for my own pocket money, which at time, in Poland, was a lot for a kid as it was full price title, Baldur's Gate 1 in nice box with manual and a map, and dubbed gloriously with then-radio/TV stars, hell, the narrator voice was better than original. Needless to say I was pretty…

pożyczyć is both borrow and lend :) In English there's a difference of direction.

"Kuba pożyczył moj długopis" - Jakub borrowed my pen

"Kuba pożyczył mi jego długopos" - Jakub lent me his pen

I'm learning Polish slowly, living in Warsaw...

Re: I went through a period where I loaned money to anyone that asked me

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Post by dkdbejwi383 »

mikrl wrote: post #9
monero-xmr wrote: post #2

I loan money to people and never expect to be repaid. If someone asks for $2k I give them $5k. $400 give them $1k. Sometimes I get paid back. Usually not. It’s because people are aware I have money so various people ask. The goal isn’t to get paid back. Often these acquaintances cut off all contact. The goal is to never be asked for money again and slowly bled out by frequent sob stories. If they know they are alread…

Would telling them to go fuck themselves not be cheaper and easier? Edit: I don’t have fuck you money, so I am actually ignorant of the dynamic you’re describing. I’d rather be known as an asshole with backbone than a rich sap though. One of those looks more like a mark than the other.

Depends whether you're optimising for the bank balance or conscience.
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