Ask HN: What is your new year's resolution? • Hacker News Board

Re: Ask HN: What is your new year's resolution?

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Post by sshagent » Tue, Jan 03, 2023, 10:17 AM UTC

surprisetalk wrote: post #62

sshagent wrote: post #60

Less wasted time (primarily reducing gaming time) Less/no alcohol. Find another job.

My best friend and I quit drinking in 2022, and it has been life-changing for both of us! E-mail me at hello@taylor.town if you're looking for tips or support :)

Very kind of you to offer. Its been a gradual process from me, my heavy drinking started 30+ years ago. Only puzzle left to solve is how to turn my brain off during mega work hectic/busy times. So far that has almost involved booze or effectively no sleep as my brain continues to work on work issues whilst I'm trying to get to sleep.

Re: Ask HN: What is your new year's resolution?

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Post by SecurityMinded » Tue, Jan 03, 2023, 7:27 PM UTC

Absolutely nothing! January 1st is a day just like any other day. If you believe turning of the year will give you some magical outcome, you are gullible. If you have or had a resolution, you should've started working on that, the very same day you though about it, not waiting for Jan 1st to come.

Re: Ask HN: What is your new year's resolution?

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Post by TechnicolorByte » Wed, Jan 04, 2023, 5:00 AM UTC

robaye wrote: post #395

TechnicolorByte wrote: post #335

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What concrete steps are you considering for overcoming your social anxiety?

Progressive exposure to social situations that make me uncomfortable. I think this is known as exposure therapy? The idea is to just put myself in more situations that are just slightly outside my comfort zone. So starting a conversation with the cashier at the store or barber or something like that and then progressively pushing my comfort with something a more challenging.

Exposure therapy sounds right and something I’ve discussed with my own therapist to get over my own SA. Best of luck to you!

Re: Ask HN: What is your new year's resolution?

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Post by annie_muss » Sat, Jan 07, 2023, 2:49 AM UTC

surprisetalk wrote: post #66

annie_muss wrote: post #52

Earn more money. I've been a software engineer for 8 years but I earn less than some new grads. I've never gone in for flashy toys or expensive trips, but now I realise that money buys me time. Time with my friends, time with my family, time to do what I want.

How do you plan on earning more money? New job? Freelancing? Starting a business?

Job hunting is the number one. I see job adverts for around 1x to 3x my salary. Job hunting is a real uphill struggle as I'm severely affected by ADHD and have a spotty job history, but I think if I spin it well I can get a big bump.